What is the origin of the engagement ring?
The diamond engagement ring was introduced by the Venetians, who discovered the diamond's value in 16th century, but bethrothal gifts hadn't included rings until A.D.860, when Pope Nicholas I decreed that a ring of value must be given as a statement of nuptial intent and that if the man called off the wedding, the jilted bride kept the ring. If the woman ended the engagement, she was to return the ring and be sent to a nunnery.
Why do bridegrooms have a best man?
In ancient times, most marriages were arranged, and so the groom wasn't always the bride's first choice. The man she favoured would often swear to carry her off before or during the wedding. To avoid this, the groom stood on the bride's right to keep his sword arm free and would enlist a warrior companion to fight off the rival if he showed up. This companion was, in fact, the "best man".
Why is June the most popular month for weddings?
The ancient Greeks and Romans both suggested marriage during a full moon because of its positive influence on fertility. The Romans favoured June, a month they named after Juno, the goddess of marriage, because if the bride conceived right away, she wouldn't be too pregnant to help with the harvest. She also would probably have recovered from giving birth in time to help in the fields with the next year's harvest.
Why do brides wear wedding veils?
Although veils for women are today associated with Muslims, their origin goes back at least three thousand years before Mohammed was even born. Outside of the Middle East, this symbol of modesty had all but dissappeared by 400 B.C., when the Romans introduced sheer translucent veils into the wedding ceremony to remind the woman that she was entering a new life of submission to her husband. Veils predate the wedding dress by several centuries.
Why is it bad luck for the groom to see his bride before the ceremony on their wedding day?
It's bad luck for the groom to see the bride within twenty-four hours of the wedding ceremony for the same reason that brides wear veils. When marriages were arranged by two families, the groom wasn't allowed to see or even meet his bride until he lifted her veil after they were married. This way, he couldn't refuse to marry her if he didn't like her looks. The 24-hour ban descends from that ritual.
How did wedding cakes become so elaborate?
Most wedding rituals are to encourage fertility, and so it is with the wedding cake, which begun with the Romans breaking small cakes of wheat and barley over the bride's head. During the reign of Charles II, the three-tier cake with white icing we use today was introduced. The cake takes its shape from the spire of Saint Bride's Church in London. The couple cuts the first piece together as a gesture of their shared future, whatever it might bring.
How did throwing of rice become a wedding custom?
Because the main purpose of marriage was to produce children, ancient people showered the new bride with fertility symbols such as wheat grain. The Romans baked this wheat into small cakes for the couple, to be eaten in a tradition known as conferriatio, or "eating together". The guests then threw handfuls of a mixture of honeyed nuts and dried fruits called confetto at the bride, which we copy by throwing rice.
Why does a groom carry his bride over the threshold?
The custom of carrying a bride over the threshold comes from the kidnapping practices of the Germanic Goths A.D. 200. Generally, these men only married women from within their own communities, but when the supply run short, they would raid neighbouring villages and seize young girls to carry home as wives. From this practice of abduction sprang the now symbolic act of carrying the bride over the threshold.
Why is marriage called “wedlock”?
Wedd is an Anglo-Saxon word meaning “to gamble,” and there is no greater gamble than marriage. In the days when brides were bartered by their fathers, and a deal was reached with a prospective groom through an exchange of either property or cash, a young woman would have been bought and sold for breeding purposes to be finalized in a wedlock ritual called a wedding. This marriage led to matrimony, which in Latin means “the state of motherhood.”
Why is a husband-to-be called a “groom”?
Bride comes from the Old English word bryd, while the word guma simply meant “a young man.” The two words together, brydguma, referred to a suitor looking for a wife. This compound changed the sixteenth century when a groom evolved within the fold language to take over guma as a description of a young man, boy, or lad who was commonly hired to work for the stables and groom horses, among other chores, but who was still seeking a wife.
Why do we say that a married couple has “tied the knot”?
In Western culture, “tying the knot” suggests the pledge of inseparable unity made by a married couple. The expression comes from ancient India, when during the wedding ceremony the Hindu groom would put a brightly coloured ribbon around the bride’s neck. During the time it took to tie the ribbon into a knot, the bride’s father would demand a better price for his daughter, but once the knot was completed the bride became the groom’s forever.
Why are wedding-related items referred to as a “bridal”?
The expressions “bridal feast,” “bridal bed,” and “bridal cake,” among other bridal references, all date back to around 1200, when a wedding was a rather boisterous and bawdy affair. The world bridal comes from “bride-ale,” which was a special beer brewed for the wedding and then sold to the guests to raise money for the newlyweds. Because of the bride-ale, weddings were quite rowdy until around the seventeenth century, when the church managed to get a grip on the whole thing.
Why does the groom crush a glass with his foot at a Jewish wedding?
Near the end of Jewish ceremony, after the vows have been made, wine is poured into a new glass over which is a blessing and recited by the rabbi. After a couple drinks from the glass, it is places on the ground and crushed by the groom’s foot. This symbolizes the destruction of the Holy Temple in Israel and reminds the guests that love is fragile. Those gathered shout “mazel tov,” and the couple kisses.
Why do we call the first weeks of marriage a “honeymoon”?
The custom of a honeymoon began over four thousand years ago in Babylon, when for a full lunar month after the wedding, the bride’s father would supply his son-in-law with all the honey-beer he could drink. It was called the “honey month” the word honeymoon didn’t enter our language until 1546, and because few people could afford a vacation, a honeymoon didn’t mean a trip away from home until the middle of the nineteenth century.
Why do women cry at weddings?
Men might cry at weddings, but they have been socially conditioned that as a protectors and warriors signs of weaknesses such as tears invite attack. There is no such thing as “happy” crying. Psychologists suggest that when people cry at happy endings, they are reacting to the moment when the critical outcome in doubt. A women crying at a wedding is most likely expressing subconscious disappointment in the outcome of her own romantic dreams.
Friday, August 27, 2010
The Ideal Wedding Gown
Getting Started...
What's your personal style?
There are two rules of thumb:
-You want to look like yourself on your wedding day, so don't pick an over-the-top gown and a sweeping updo if you're usually a minimalist when it comes to clothing, hair, and makeup. You do, after all, want the groom to recognize the person walking down the aisle.
-Choose a gown that will actually look good on you. You may love the idea of strapless but hate your upper arms, so now is a good time to rein in your expectations about how dreamy your “dream dress” will be when it’s on. (You’ll also want to give some consideration to body types when it comes to bridesmaids’ dresses.)
Where are you getting married?
When you’re headed down the aisle, your surroundings can shape your wardrobe.
Four considerations:
The mood: If you’re getting hitched at city hall, you may want to rethink that seven-foot cathedral train. Similarly, a simple slip dress may not be the most appropriate choice if you’re having a black-tie fete at reception hall.
The religious affiliation of the location: Are there rules with regard to modesty? The guidelines vary between faiths and even same-denomination congregations – so don’t assume that all Catholic churches in Davao are OK with exposed arms and legs. (In general, sects of most religions in a very conservative Davao frown on showing a lot of skin.)
The lay of the land: Are you going to have your reception in an area complete with dust, dirt, and sand flooring? Then steer clear of floor-sweeping lace, which will act as a magnet for those brown bits. And a garden wedding can turn a long train from white to grass green before the photos have even been taken.
The temperature: In Davao, the temperature averages in the 30's and the humidity is high, you’ll want to wear a fabric like cotton eyelet that won’t wilt in the humidity. Meanwhile, if you know that you'll be protected with air conditioned environment then you'll want a wedding dress with a little heft to it, perhaps in satin or silk.
How much money are you willing to spend?
Be realistic. Don’t try on dresses that are way out of your budget. You certainly don’t want to fall head over heels for a dress that’s simply not an option.
If you are at the high end of the market: You can pick every element of your dress (a strapless bodice, an A-line skirt) with a couturier and a one-of-a-kind pattern will be created based on your exact measurements. Or you may want to purchase an existing style from a well-known designer label. The dresses in this pricey category are characterized by luxurious fabrics and a high level of handiwork, like perfectly finished seams and hundreds of delicate buttons.
If you are on a budget: There have never been better off-the-rack options. Hit the stores armed with your own “look book”, containing magazine tear-outs, photos from friends’ weddings, fabric swatches – anything that helps you communicate your taste to the sales staff. The more detailed, the better: “I like the neckline of this gown and the skirt of this one.” Be completely candid about your budget from the get-go. That way, you won’t waste a single moment trying on dresses that you’ll never end up buying.
YOUR BODY, YOUR DRESS
Brides comes in all shapes and sizes - and so should their dresses. Here's how to make sense of all the different styles and determine which gown will fit and flatter you most.
If you're pear-shaped
look for: A skirt that gradually flares out in an “A” formation from the natural waist to the floor, highlighting the narrowness of the midsection and floating away from the hips and thighs. (Sturdier fabrics, such as duchesse satin and taffeta, are especially effective, since they won’t cling.) A spaghetti strap bodice or a V-neckline will also showcase a more slender upper body.
keep in mind: A classic A-line silhouette lends itself to formal weddings, but it can also be dressed down when made from a more casual fabric, like eyelet lace or raw-silk shantung.
If you’re busty
look for: A dress with a scooped-neckline. It will open up your face and display your neckline without showing too much cleavage. If you love the look of strapless gowns, choose one that has a slight dip along the neckline rather than a style that goes straight across ( which will make your bust appear even larger and more shelflike.)
keep in mind: Fabric on the bodice that has sheen to it (such as organza, satin, or silk) will add volume and call attention to your chest. Material that is pleated or gathered will have the same effect.
If you’re plus-sized
look for: An Empire dress with a skirt that begins just under the bust and flows into a gradual floor-length A-line. Make sure the Empire seam does not start on the chest and that there is no pleating of the fabric, which is reminiscent of maternity wear. The dress should play up your shape, if it’s too loose, it will add pounds.
keep in mind: Find fabrics like satin that provide structure, rather than anything too flowy. If you love the romantic look of airier fabrics, choose a gown with a stiffer base, then add an embroidered tulle overlay.
If you’re apple-shaped
look for: A dress that cinches in at the smallest point on the waistline, then flares out into a gradual A-shape. Opt for a bodice with a lot of texture to it – think ruche or lace detailing – that will camouflage and fit snugly, creating a corset-like effect. The most slenderizing neckline for you is one with a deep V, which will draw eyes toward the vertical, not the horizontal.
keep in mind: Avoid trumpet dress styles, which emphasize the area where your body is widest and flare out at the legs and the knees, where you are most slender.
If you’re tall
look for: A simple silhouette. The strategy is to emphasize your natural shape, so every aspect of the dress – the lower waistline, a floor-sweeping hem – needs to reflect your longer proportions. If you’re wearing long sleeves, they should go past the wrist. You don’t want to look as if you’ve borrowed a gown from someone shorter than you.
keep in mind: Because you are statuesque, you’ll want to err on the side of simplicity when it comes to embellishments. Too many bells and whistles, like ruffles and rosettes, can come off as cutesy, particularly on a tall person.
If you’re straight-lined
look for: A dress that will create curves where you don’t have them. Try a sheath dress that’s cut on the bias. Or look for a ball gown that cinches in at your natural waist and descends into a full, flowing floor-length skirt: It will capitalize in your slenderness and camouflage a lack of hips.
keep in mind: If you have a small bust, look for a bodice with some pleating to create volume.
If you’re small-chested
look for: A pleated bodice. Extra fabric up top will help fill out your upper body and create the illusion of curves. Lightly padded halter styles will also do the trick.
keep in mind: The right bra will always provide a nice boost, but as many wedding dresses are strapless or backless, your undergarment may be fairly limited. Instead, try self-adhesive silicone bra cups.
DRESS UPGRADES
You’re never fully dressed without a few carefully selected accessories. Here’s how to put the finishing touches on your wedding day look.
WRAP
why choose it: You’re looking for extra coverage for a strapless gown or you just want an insurance policy against a chill.
what to consider: Options range from the simple (a white pashmina or a cashmere cardigan) to the ornate ( a beaded wrap).
You may want to wrap a satin gown in a panel made from the same fabric. Ask your dressmaker to order extra material from the same dye lot as your dress, as colors can vary slightly. Standard silk, chiffon, and lace wraps are sure bets too and with any luck, you’ll have an accessory you’ll actually wear again.
Headpiece
why choose it: Many women don’t feel fully bridal without a veil, a tiara, or some other adornment.
what to consider: If you go the veil route, try on a variety of lengths and shapes with your gown to see what complements it best. In general, longer veils are considered more formal and shorter ones have a slightly retro feel. Tiaras, silk flowers, vintage combs, or pearl and crystal hairpins can also add a special touch.
Jewelry
why choose it: To complement your neckline or simply to add sparkle to your Big Day.
what to consider: You don’t want jewelry that steals the show. The pieces you purchase or borrow should enhance your gown, not compete with it. So if you’re wearing a dress with an elaborately beaded neckline, a necklace of any kind could be distracting. Diamond studs, pearl earrings or a delicate diamond bracelet would work well instead. On the other hand, a wide-set portrait neckline begs to be completed with a pendant or a pair of chandelier danglers.
Shoes
why choose them: Unless your ceremony involves sand, you can’t exactly go barefoot.
what to consider: Heel height. Ballet flats or kitten heels are the safest call, but higher heels can also be comfortable if you choose a platform heel. Dyeing shoes the same color as your gown is the easiest way to guarantee a match but you can also try buying a metallic pair. Ivory dresses tend to go well with gold shades; truer white work better with silver tones.
Thursday, August 26, 2010
The Wedding Checklist
12 MONTHS
BRIDE
Announce the engagement to family, friends and maybe, in the newspaper.
Set a wedding date & decide on the type of wedding.
Make a venue selection, and book the reception at Linmarr Davao.
Make an appointment with the ceremony official to discuss the service.
Find out about religious & legal requirements for your ceremony.
Get both families together to discuss the budget, and who will pay for what.
Decide on the number of guests and make sure you check with both families.
Start a wedding file to keep your notes and paperwork together.
8 MONTHS
BRIDE
Get going with your wedding dress (Keep in mind that a few fittings may be required).
Select your bridesmaids and appoint the speakers at the wedding.
With your Groom, select your ideal honeymoon destination and make reservations.
Select a photographer/videographer.
6 MONTHS
BRIDE
Design wedding stationary – invitations, RSVP cards, thank-you cards, etc.
Choose your wedding colour scheme. Also remember to tell your mother & your fiancé’s mother so they can find dresses in harmonizing colours.
Select a florist and discuss flowers that will match your colour scheme.
Select music for the ceremony and the reception.
3 MONTHS
BRIDE
Finalize the guest list and double check that all the names are spelled correctly and the addresses are complete.
Mail or arrange the delivery of the invitations.
Confirm the delivery date of your wedding dress.
Make your final selection on the attendants’ dresses and assist the mothers.
Order your wedding cake.
Start your health and fitness program at the Holiday Gym and Spa. Make an appointment with your family doctor.
Brief your ceremony official and check that the documentation required is in place.
Choose a guest book at Linmarr Davao.
Choose gifts for the attendants.
Begin writing thank-you notes for gifts received early.
Make or order wedding favours.
The Reception - Discuss the details of your reception with the Linmarr Davao co-ordinator – menus, drinks, etc.
GROOM
Talk with your Bride about the level of formality of the wedding and then order your attire. Discuss the attire of the best man and ushers.
Finalize honeymoon arrangements – passports, insurance, vaccinations, travellers’ cheques.
Shop for wedding rings.
Arrange transportation for the Bride and Groom, and the guests.
Assist out-of-town guests with accommodation.
Decide how you will organize your financial affairs with your Bride.
1 MONTH
BRIDE
Follow up on unanswered invitations.
Have the final wedding dress fitting to make sure you are going to look picture-perfect.
Buy bridal accessories – veil, shoes, jewellery, etc.
Make appointments with your make-up artist and hair stylist (remember the trials).
Make arrangements for an attendants’ luncheon/dinner & hand out their gifts.
Schedule a ceremony rehearsal. It should take place one or two days before the wedding.
If you’ve decided to exchange gifts with your fiancé, now is a good time to choose that special present.
GROOM
Arrange for the rehearsal dinner with your parents, if they are hosting it.
Pick up the Bride’s ring, and double check the engraving.
Pick up your best man & ushers’ gifts.
Ensure that all wedding attire is ready.
Select a gift for your Bride. Make it something personal that will be a lasting memory.
2 WEEKS
BRIDE
With your fiancé, take the time to go and fill out the necessary forms for your marriage license.
Phone the editors of your local newspapers to find out what information is required for you to place a wedding announcement.
Arrange to change your name and your address on official documents such as driver’s license, bank accounts, insurance and health policies, etc.
Draw up a wedding-day time sheet and circulate it to all the necessary people.
BEST MAN
It’s your responsibility to organize the Bachelor Party. Don’t let things get out of hand.
1 WEEK
BRIDE
Pack for your honeymoon.
Practice putting on your wedding dress and break in your shoes.
Have one of your attendants call all your suppliers to verify they will be on time, at the right location and with everything you’ve ordered.
Be good to yourself. This week especially, put your feet up for at least an hour each day. If you can, take a day off just before the wedding and pamper yourself with a facial, pedicure, manicure and massage. It’s the perfect way to prepare for a beautiful wedding.
GROOM
Brief your head usher on any special seating instructions.
Put the religious donation in a sealed envelope and give it to the Best Man who will hand it to the ceremony official just before or after the ceremony.
Get a hair cut.
Move personal things to your new home. Help her do the same.
Check that all speeches are prepared.
Make final payments.
BEST MAN
Discuss all details with the Bride and Groom well before the ceremony and brief the ushers’. Remember, you are also in charge of handing out service sheets, mass books, etc.
THE DAY
BRIDE
Have a massage to start the day off feeling great. Get dressed 2 hours before the ceremony. Relax and enjoy the day – remember to pause once in a while to take it all in – it’s the details what make it all so special.
MAID/MATRON OF HONOUR
Take an emergency kit with you – things a Bride may need such as a needle and thread, hairpins, nail polish, aspirin, water, etc.
BEST MAN
Check the Groom’s outfit. Put the marriage license safely in your pocket. Make sure the rings are in one of the Groom’s safe pockets. Call the ushers to make sure they arrive at the ceremony on time and that they know their duties Remember you’re in charge here.
THE CEREMONY
The wedding official takes his / her place at the front of the church.
The Groom and Best Man stands ready (The Best Man stands to the right of the Groom).
The organist begins the procession music.
You and your father start slowly walking down the aisle.
Following the ceremony, the Maid of Honour, escorted by the Best Man, goes with the Bride and Groom to participate in the signing of the marriage registry.
AFTER THE CEREMONY
The Best Man helps organize the wedding party for the photographs after the ceremony.
He also makes sure all the guests have transportation to the reception party. He escorts the Maid of Honour to the reception.
Now is when the Best Man takes over as the Master of Ceremonies. He is responsible for overall timing, replying to the Groom’s toast, the Best Man makes his speech, reading messages or cards from absent friends.
AFTER
Ask your mother to send your gown to be cleaned.
Send thank-you letters.
Make sure all the bills have been paid.
Have a wonderful honeymoon.
BRIDE
Announce the engagement to family, friends and maybe, in the newspaper.
Set a wedding date & decide on the type of wedding.
Make a venue selection, and book the reception at Linmarr Davao.
Make an appointment with the ceremony official to discuss the service.
Find out about religious & legal requirements for your ceremony.
Get both families together to discuss the budget, and who will pay for what.
Decide on the number of guests and make sure you check with both families.
Start a wedding file to keep your notes and paperwork together.
8 MONTHS
BRIDE
Get going with your wedding dress (Keep in mind that a few fittings may be required).
Select your bridesmaids and appoint the speakers at the wedding.
With your Groom, select your ideal honeymoon destination and make reservations.
Select a photographer/videographer.
6 MONTHS
BRIDE
Design wedding stationary – invitations, RSVP cards, thank-you cards, etc.
Choose your wedding colour scheme. Also remember to tell your mother & your fiancé’s mother so they can find dresses in harmonizing colours.
Select a florist and discuss flowers that will match your colour scheme.
Select music for the ceremony and the reception.
3 MONTHS
BRIDE
Finalize the guest list and double check that all the names are spelled correctly and the addresses are complete.
Mail or arrange the delivery of the invitations.
Confirm the delivery date of your wedding dress.
Make your final selection on the attendants’ dresses and assist the mothers.
Order your wedding cake.
Start your health and fitness program at the Holiday Gym and Spa. Make an appointment with your family doctor.
Brief your ceremony official and check that the documentation required is in place.
Choose a guest book at Linmarr Davao.
Choose gifts for the attendants.
Begin writing thank-you notes for gifts received early.
Make or order wedding favours.
The Reception - Discuss the details of your reception with the Linmarr Davao co-ordinator – menus, drinks, etc.
GROOM
Talk with your Bride about the level of formality of the wedding and then order your attire. Discuss the attire of the best man and ushers.
Finalize honeymoon arrangements – passports, insurance, vaccinations, travellers’ cheques.
Shop for wedding rings.
Arrange transportation for the Bride and Groom, and the guests.
Assist out-of-town guests with accommodation.
Decide how you will organize your financial affairs with your Bride.
1 MONTH
BRIDE
Follow up on unanswered invitations.
Have the final wedding dress fitting to make sure you are going to look picture-perfect.
Buy bridal accessories – veil, shoes, jewellery, etc.
Make appointments with your make-up artist and hair stylist (remember the trials).
Make arrangements for an attendants’ luncheon/dinner & hand out their gifts.
Schedule a ceremony rehearsal. It should take place one or two days before the wedding.
If you’ve decided to exchange gifts with your fiancé, now is a good time to choose that special present.
GROOM
Arrange for the rehearsal dinner with your parents, if they are hosting it.
Pick up the Bride’s ring, and double check the engraving.
Pick up your best man & ushers’ gifts.
Ensure that all wedding attire is ready.
Select a gift for your Bride. Make it something personal that will be a lasting memory.
2 WEEKS
BRIDE
With your fiancé, take the time to go and fill out the necessary forms for your marriage license.
Phone the editors of your local newspapers to find out what information is required for you to place a wedding announcement.
Arrange to change your name and your address on official documents such as driver’s license, bank accounts, insurance and health policies, etc.
Draw up a wedding-day time sheet and circulate it to all the necessary people.
BEST MAN
It’s your responsibility to organize the Bachelor Party. Don’t let things get out of hand.
1 WEEK
BRIDE
Pack for your honeymoon.
Practice putting on your wedding dress and break in your shoes.
Have one of your attendants call all your suppliers to verify they will be on time, at the right location and with everything you’ve ordered.
Be good to yourself. This week especially, put your feet up for at least an hour each day. If you can, take a day off just before the wedding and pamper yourself with a facial, pedicure, manicure and massage. It’s the perfect way to prepare for a beautiful wedding.
GROOM
Brief your head usher on any special seating instructions.
Put the religious donation in a sealed envelope and give it to the Best Man who will hand it to the ceremony official just before or after the ceremony.
Get a hair cut.
Move personal things to your new home. Help her do the same.
Check that all speeches are prepared.
Make final payments.
BEST MAN
Discuss all details with the Bride and Groom well before the ceremony and brief the ushers’. Remember, you are also in charge of handing out service sheets, mass books, etc.
THE DAY
BRIDE
Have a massage to start the day off feeling great. Get dressed 2 hours before the ceremony. Relax and enjoy the day – remember to pause once in a while to take it all in – it’s the details what make it all so special.
MAID/MATRON OF HONOUR
Take an emergency kit with you – things a Bride may need such as a needle and thread, hairpins, nail polish, aspirin, water, etc.
BEST MAN
Check the Groom’s outfit. Put the marriage license safely in your pocket. Make sure the rings are in one of the Groom’s safe pockets. Call the ushers to make sure they arrive at the ceremony on time and that they know their duties Remember you’re in charge here.
THE CEREMONY
The wedding official takes his / her place at the front of the church.
The Groom and Best Man stands ready (The Best Man stands to the right of the Groom).
The organist begins the procession music.
You and your father start slowly walking down the aisle.
Following the ceremony, the Maid of Honour, escorted by the Best Man, goes with the Bride and Groom to participate in the signing of the marriage registry.
AFTER THE CEREMONY
The Best Man helps organize the wedding party for the photographs after the ceremony.
He also makes sure all the guests have transportation to the reception party. He escorts the Maid of Honour to the reception.
Now is when the Best Man takes over as the Master of Ceremonies. He is responsible for overall timing, replying to the Groom’s toast, the Best Man makes his speech, reading messages or cards from absent friends.
AFTER
Ask your mother to send your gown to be cleaned.
Send thank-you letters.
Make sure all the bills have been paid.
Have a wonderful honeymoon.
Prepare Your Wedding Day Emergency Kit
There are number of items that you should have on hand for the wedding day "just in case". You can find these items at convenience stores, grocery stores and drugstores. Assemble your preferred items into an ecofriendly bag. Prepare your kit in advance and hang on the back knob of your bedroom door. Move it to your front door the night before and grab it confidently as you leave for your wedding.
* Aspirin or Ibuprofen
* Antacid Tablets (chewable)
* Baby or Talcum Powder
* Bobby Pins
* Bottled Water (at least one)
* Breath mints or mouthwash
* Candy (bribe for youngsters to pose for pictures)
* Clear band aids (for cuts and shoe protection)
* Clear nail polish (in case of a run in stockings - optional)
* Crackers (for nausea and snacks)
* Deodorant
* Facial tissue or handkerchief
* Money (drinks, tips, convenience store stops, etc)
* Sanitary Napkins
* Writing Pen and/or Pencil
* Toothbrush and toothpaste
* Rubber Bands
* Aspirin or Ibuprofen
* Antacid Tablets (chewable)
* Baby or Talcum Powder
* Bobby Pins
* Bottled Water (at least one)
* Breath mints or mouthwash
* Candy (bribe for youngsters to pose for pictures)
* Clear band aids (for cuts and shoe protection)
* Clear nail polish (in case of a run in stockings - optional)
* Crackers (for nausea and snacks)
* Deodorant
* Facial tissue or handkerchief
* Money (drinks, tips, convenience store stops, etc)
* Sanitary Napkins
* Writing Pen and/or Pencil
* Toothbrush and toothpaste
* Rubber Bands
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Top 5 Wedding Color Themes
In themed weddings, colors are the first priority since it carries on from the bridal gown, invitations, clothes for the entourage down to napkins and tablecloths. On a website by Kate Smith, www.sensationalcolor.com she a answers the question “Is the color of love green or red?” An opinionated reader wrote that green seems to be more attractive on women. But Kate points out that although green is associated with nature, health and balance which might be confused with love, it still does not represent love on the passionate level between two people. The color red still claims this.
Bridal gowns are predominantly white nowadays since it is seen as a sign of purity and piety. But the truth of the matter is that even in biblical terms the color symbol for this is actually light blue, which was used more often in ancient times.
A writer named Kelsey McIntyre notes that the preference for white fashionably influenced by its choice for the bridal dress during Queen Victoria to her betrothal to her cousin Albert of Saxe-Coburg in 1840. It was a historic event and the esteemed designers of the day made constant use of it. Coco Chanel cemented the use of white during her reign of influence as she popularized the short white wedding dress. Along this line, an old poem was found saying, “Married in white, you will have chosen all right. Married in grey, you will go far away. Married in black, you will wish yourself back. Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead. Married in blue, you will always be true. Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl. Married in green, ashamed to be seen, Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow. Married in brown, you’ll live out of town. Married in pink, your spirits will sink.”
Today, white still stands as the top choice for wedding color themes; the next four is actually not determined in this article since trends change with the seasons. But the two rules of thumb in designing for weddings are relate and compliment the chosen main color and avoid using too many colors. One or two are enough and three may be over the top. The second rule is that although black is a very classic and elegant color; but should not be overused as the central color theme as it will set off a negative tone and possibly pass off the event as a funeral.
But just to run down the key color choices: Brown and Orange will make your guests feel comfortable, warm and very cozy and the latter, psychologists say, actually stimulates the appetite.
Green stands for nature, fertility, wealth and money and Blue is for faith, truth and tranquility. Pink is for innocence, femininity, gentleness and fidelity while purple is for royalty, luxury, creativity and inspiration.
For warmer months, Yellow is used as it joyful, happy and cheerful color, much like sunshine. The Japanese see it as the symbol of royalty and courage. Red can be assumed as the closest to white in popularity since it represents love, passion, power and sex and suits the colder seasons. The universal gifting of red roses are taken as show of deep love. In India it is also seen as the color of purity while the Chinese refer to it for good luck.
Quick research will show that the mood can be set by the colors, but the best determinant of the color choice would be to first determine the character of the bride. Since this is her big day, her word will be last. The only other common factor for choice would be the season.
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Whatever your color theme for your wedding is, Footprint Events can provide the perfect wedding of your choice. Check www.footprintevents.multiply.com.
Bridal gowns are predominantly white nowadays since it is seen as a sign of purity and piety. But the truth of the matter is that even in biblical terms the color symbol for this is actually light blue, which was used more often in ancient times.
A writer named Kelsey McIntyre notes that the preference for white fashionably influenced by its choice for the bridal dress during Queen Victoria to her betrothal to her cousin Albert of Saxe-Coburg in 1840. It was a historic event and the esteemed designers of the day made constant use of it. Coco Chanel cemented the use of white during her reign of influence as she popularized the short white wedding dress. Along this line, an old poem was found saying, “Married in white, you will have chosen all right. Married in grey, you will go far away. Married in black, you will wish yourself back. Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead. Married in blue, you will always be true. Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl. Married in green, ashamed to be seen, Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow. Married in brown, you’ll live out of town. Married in pink, your spirits will sink.”
Today, white still stands as the top choice for wedding color themes; the next four is actually not determined in this article since trends change with the seasons. But the two rules of thumb in designing for weddings are relate and compliment the chosen main color and avoid using too many colors. One or two are enough and three may be over the top. The second rule is that although black is a very classic and elegant color; but should not be overused as the central color theme as it will set off a negative tone and possibly pass off the event as a funeral.
But just to run down the key color choices: Brown and Orange will make your guests feel comfortable, warm and very cozy and the latter, psychologists say, actually stimulates the appetite.
Green stands for nature, fertility, wealth and money and Blue is for faith, truth and tranquility. Pink is for innocence, femininity, gentleness and fidelity while purple is for royalty, luxury, creativity and inspiration.
For warmer months, Yellow is used as it joyful, happy and cheerful color, much like sunshine. The Japanese see it as the symbol of royalty and courage. Red can be assumed as the closest to white in popularity since it represents love, passion, power and sex and suits the colder seasons. The universal gifting of red roses are taken as show of deep love. In India it is also seen as the color of purity while the Chinese refer to it for good luck.
Quick research will show that the mood can be set by the colors, but the best determinant of the color choice would be to first determine the character of the bride. Since this is her big day, her word will be last. The only other common factor for choice would be the season.
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Whatever your color theme for your wedding is, Footprint Events can provide the perfect wedding of your choice. Check www.footprintevents.multiply.com.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
Top 10 Cheesiest Songs Played at Pinoy Weddings
Jean Natividad Published: 22nd of June, 2010
Why do Pinoy weddings tend to sound the same? Is it because most brides (and grooms, if they had a say on the matter) pick the same old wedding songs? Maybe it's not their choice entirely. We suspect they pick tunes people expect to hear. Because, really, how many tradition-crazy Pinoys would appreciate edgy tunes by Portishead or Paramore as wedding theme songs? SPOT.ph pays homage to the 10 cheesiest ditties we're bound to heard over and over again every year, and that, admit it, can be "Awwww"-inspiring even to the most jaded of hearts.
1. "We've Only Just Begun" by the Carpenters
Mushiest lyrics: And when the evening comes we smile / So much of life ahead / We'll find a place where there's room to grow
Versions: Over the years, notable male versions of this Carpenters original have been recorded by Paul Williams, Perry Como, Mark Lindsay, Andy Williams, and Johnny Mathis. Female versions are from Dionne Warwick, Barbra Streisand, and Claudine Longet, who murders the song. Karen Carpenter owns this song.
Trivia: The song (in Paul Williams' vocals) was first used for a bank commercial.
Cheese factor: The song has loads of references to beginnings and "roads ahead." But where the heck did this line come from: "We start out walking and learn to run." We get what it's trying to say, but we can't help it if we picture two adults acting like babies.
2. "The Way You Look Tonight" by Fred Astaire
Mushiest lyrics: And that laugh that wrinkles your nose / It touches my foolish heart
Versions: The much-loved wedding track is a 1936 Fred Astaire original. Legendary musicians like Frank Sinatra, Billie Holiday, Tony Bennett, Ella Fitzgerald, Olivia Newton-John, and Rod Stewart have their own versions. Younger artists like Michael Bublé, Joey McIntyre, Maroon 5, and Kris Allen also have their covers. And yes, even our very own Zsa Zsa Padilla has a commendable version. However, Sinatra's version is the most melodious of them all.
Trivia: The song is from a 1936 film titled Swing Time. John "Lucky" Garnett (Astaire) sung this song to Penelope "Penny" Carroll (Ginger Rogers). It is also included in soundtracks of several movies including the quirky wedding flicks My Best Friend's Wedding and Father of the Bride.
Cheese factor: This song is not cheesy per se but the fact that it's played at every single wedding, more so when it's a remake, has made it so. Anyway, has it ever occurred to people that this could be an X-rated song if it's not played at the right time? Playing this song during a daytime wedding only makes everyone think of the wedding night.
3. "The Gift" by Jim Brickman
No wonder he's so good at it, he's been playing the piano since the age of five.
Mushiest Lyrics: All I want is to hold you forever / All I need is you more every day
Versions: This 1997 Jim Brickman composition, in collaboration with Collin Raye and Susan Ashton, was revived by Erik Santos in his 2009 album titled The Jim Brickman Songbook. Thumbs up for Santos' version and thanks a lot for sticking to the simplicity of the tune. The soothing piano and his vocals create a sweet serenade.
Trivia: Aside from making music, Brickman also hosts his own radio show in the US called Your Weekend with Jim Brickman.
Cheese factor: Love is a gift that can't be boxed and wrapped in shiny, glittery paper and yet, it's one hell of a treat. So lovebirds, cherish it.
4. "I Finally Found Someone" by Barbra Streisand and Bryan Adams
Mushiest Lyrics: My favorite line was / "Can I call you sometime?" / It's all you had to say / To take my breath away
Versions: This 1996 Barbra Streisand and Bryan Adams duet was performed by Celine Dion at the Academy Awards. A country version was recorded by Lorrie Morgan and Sammy Kershaw in 2001. The Celine Dion performance was so superb that it sparked the "Tell Him" duet of Streisand and Dion.
Trivia: The song is soundtrack to the film The Mirror Has Two Faces that Streisand produced, directed, and starred in.
Cheese factor: There's a hint of desperation in the song–and it's all because of the word, "finally." It indicates that one has been looking for Mister or Miss Right for ages. Love's great, but, hey, there's more to life than "coupling."
5. "All My Life" by America
Mushiest lyrics: All my life, I will carry you through / All my life, between each hour of the passing days / I will stay with you
Versions: This well-loved classic is an American original, just one of their many hits like Ventura Highway and Daisy Jane. Asia's Songbird Regine Velasquez beautifully sang a cover of this hit during her One Enchanting Songbird Benefit Concert.
Trivia: All three original members (Gerry Beckley, Dewey Bunnel, and Dan Peek) share a common denominator, being half-British and half-American. Their fathers were American military personnel who met their loves while stationed in London.
Cheese Factor: Giving in to love is the sweetest surrender, agree?
6. "Sana'y Wala Nang Wakas" by Sharon Cuneta
Mushiest lyrics: Kahit na ilang tinik ay kaya kong tapakan / Kung 'yan ang paraan upang landas mo'y masundan
Versions: Regine Velasquez, Jed Madela, and Rachelle Ann go sang covers of this Sharon Cuneta original. This song sounds best when sung by a choir. Otherwise, Megastar owns this one.
Trivia: In total accordance with Philippine teleserye tradition, the song was used as title for a soap starring Jericho Rosales and Kristine Hermosa.
Cheese factor: It's the perfect song for hopeless romantics...as well as masochists.
7. "Ikaw" by Sharon Cuneta and Ariel Rivera
Mushiest lyrics: Kulang ang magpakailan pa man / Upang bawat sandali ay / Upang muli't muli ay / Ang mahalin ay ikaw
Versions: Top-rated Filipino performers Martin Nievera, Lea Salonga, and Regine Velasquez have their own versions of the song. All three gave justice to the piece but Salonga is a standout.
Trivia: Before becoming a singer and eventually an actor, Ariel Rivera worked as an architect in Dubai.
Cheese factor: Your special someone may seem heaven-sent but like us, he/she is human and has flaws. Just don't go running away when you realize that, okay? True love embraces the good as well as the bad.
8. "Ngayon at Kailanman" by Basil Valdez
Mushiest lyrics: Sa bawat araw ang pag-ibig ko sa ‘yo liyag / Lalong tumatamis, tumitingkad / Bawat kahapon ay daig nitong bawat ngayon / Na daig ng bawat bukas
Versions: Sharon Cuneta recorded her version of the hit song in 1992 for a film of the same title where she teamed up with Richard Gomez. Marinel Santos also has her rendition from the George Canseco Songbook album released in 2008.
Trivia: Basil Valdez wasn't always a solo artist. He was a member of Circus Band in 1972 which disbanded a few years after.
Cheese factor: The ride along the wedded road need not be as calm as the melody of this song. There are lots of ways to spice up the relationship from a new perfume to some animal-print wallpaper.
9. "Pangako" by Ogie Alcasid
Mushiest lyrics: Pangako, hindi ka na mag-iisa / Pangakong magmula ngayo'y / Tayong dal'wa ang magkasama
Versions: Regine Velasquez recorded her rendition as theme song for her 2001 flick titled Pangako Ikaw Lang with Aga Muhlach. Since the release of her cover, the song has gained more popularity and has been used as a staple wedding track. There's no denying the powerful voice of the Asia's Songbird.
Trivia: On his first major attempt to enter the music scene in 1989, Ogie Alcasid's self-titled debut album reached gold record status. Talk about raw talent.
Cheese factor: They say promises are meant to be broken, we say those who say that are bitter. Some promises are actually fulfilled all in the name of love.
Why do Pinoy weddings tend to sound the same? Is it because most brides (and grooms, if they had a say on the matter) pick the same old wedding songs? Maybe it's not their choice entirely. We suspect they pick tunes people expect to hear. Because, really, how many tradition-crazy Pinoys would appreciate edgy tunes by Portishead or Paramore as wedding theme songs? SPOT.ph pays homage to the 10 cheesiest ditties we're bound to heard over and over again every year, and that, admit it, can be "Awwww"-inspiring even to the most jaded of hearts.
1. "We've Only Just Begun" by the Carpenters
Mushiest lyrics: And when the evening comes we smile / So much of life ahead / We'll find a place where there's room to grow
Versions: Over the years, notable male versions of this Carpenters original have been recorded by Paul Williams, Perry Como, Mark Lindsay, Andy Williams, and Johnny Mathis. Female versions are from Dionne Warwick, Barbra Streisand, and Claudine Longet, who murders the song. Karen Carpenter owns this song.
Trivia: The song (in Paul Williams' vocals) was first used for a bank commercial.
Cheese factor: The song has loads of references to beginnings and "roads ahead." But where the heck did this line come from: "We start out walking and learn to run." We get what it's trying to say, but we can't help it if we picture two adults acting like babies.
2. "The Way You Look Tonight" by Fred Astaire
Mushiest lyrics: And that laugh that wrinkles your nose / It touches my foolish heart
Versions: The much-loved wedding track is a 1936 Fred Astaire original. Legendary musicians like Frank Sinatra, Billie Holiday, Tony Bennett, Ella Fitzgerald, Olivia Newton-John, and Rod Stewart have their own versions. Younger artists like Michael Bublé, Joey McIntyre, Maroon 5, and Kris Allen also have their covers. And yes, even our very own Zsa Zsa Padilla has a commendable version. However, Sinatra's version is the most melodious of them all.
Trivia: The song is from a 1936 film titled Swing Time. John "Lucky" Garnett (Astaire) sung this song to Penelope "Penny" Carroll (Ginger Rogers). It is also included in soundtracks of several movies including the quirky wedding flicks My Best Friend's Wedding and Father of the Bride.
Cheese factor: This song is not cheesy per se but the fact that it's played at every single wedding, more so when it's a remake, has made it so. Anyway, has it ever occurred to people that this could be an X-rated song if it's not played at the right time? Playing this song during a daytime wedding only makes everyone think of the wedding night.
3. "The Gift" by Jim Brickman
No wonder he's so good at it, he's been playing the piano since the age of five.
Mushiest Lyrics: All I want is to hold you forever / All I need is you more every day
Versions: This 1997 Jim Brickman composition, in collaboration with Collin Raye and Susan Ashton, was revived by Erik Santos in his 2009 album titled The Jim Brickman Songbook. Thumbs up for Santos' version and thanks a lot for sticking to the simplicity of the tune. The soothing piano and his vocals create a sweet serenade.
Trivia: Aside from making music, Brickman also hosts his own radio show in the US called Your Weekend with Jim Brickman.
Cheese factor: Love is a gift that can't be boxed and wrapped in shiny, glittery paper and yet, it's one hell of a treat. So lovebirds, cherish it.
4. "I Finally Found Someone" by Barbra Streisand and Bryan Adams
Mushiest Lyrics: My favorite line was / "Can I call you sometime?" / It's all you had to say / To take my breath away
Versions: This 1996 Barbra Streisand and Bryan Adams duet was performed by Celine Dion at the Academy Awards. A country version was recorded by Lorrie Morgan and Sammy Kershaw in 2001. The Celine Dion performance was so superb that it sparked the "Tell Him" duet of Streisand and Dion.
Trivia: The song is soundtrack to the film The Mirror Has Two Faces that Streisand produced, directed, and starred in.
Cheese factor: There's a hint of desperation in the song–and it's all because of the word, "finally." It indicates that one has been looking for Mister or Miss Right for ages. Love's great, but, hey, there's more to life than "coupling."
5. "All My Life" by America
Mushiest lyrics: All my life, I will carry you through / All my life, between each hour of the passing days / I will stay with you
Versions: This well-loved classic is an American original, just one of their many hits like Ventura Highway and Daisy Jane. Asia's Songbird Regine Velasquez beautifully sang a cover of this hit during her One Enchanting Songbird Benefit Concert.
Trivia: All three original members (Gerry Beckley, Dewey Bunnel, and Dan Peek) share a common denominator, being half-British and half-American. Their fathers were American military personnel who met their loves while stationed in London.
Cheese Factor: Giving in to love is the sweetest surrender, agree?
6. "Sana'y Wala Nang Wakas" by Sharon Cuneta
Mushiest lyrics: Kahit na ilang tinik ay kaya kong tapakan / Kung 'yan ang paraan upang landas mo'y masundan
Versions: Regine Velasquez, Jed Madela, and Rachelle Ann go sang covers of this Sharon Cuneta original. This song sounds best when sung by a choir. Otherwise, Megastar owns this one.
Trivia: In total accordance with Philippine teleserye tradition, the song was used as title for a soap starring Jericho Rosales and Kristine Hermosa.
Cheese factor: It's the perfect song for hopeless romantics...as well as masochists.
7. "Ikaw" by Sharon Cuneta and Ariel Rivera
Mushiest lyrics: Kulang ang magpakailan pa man / Upang bawat sandali ay / Upang muli't muli ay / Ang mahalin ay ikaw
Versions: Top-rated Filipino performers Martin Nievera, Lea Salonga, and Regine Velasquez have their own versions of the song. All three gave justice to the piece but Salonga is a standout.
Trivia: Before becoming a singer and eventually an actor, Ariel Rivera worked as an architect in Dubai.
Cheese factor: Your special someone may seem heaven-sent but like us, he/she is human and has flaws. Just don't go running away when you realize that, okay? True love embraces the good as well as the bad.
8. "Ngayon at Kailanman" by Basil Valdez
Mushiest lyrics: Sa bawat araw ang pag-ibig ko sa ‘yo liyag / Lalong tumatamis, tumitingkad / Bawat kahapon ay daig nitong bawat ngayon / Na daig ng bawat bukas
Versions: Sharon Cuneta recorded her version of the hit song in 1992 for a film of the same title where she teamed up with Richard Gomez. Marinel Santos also has her rendition from the George Canseco Songbook album released in 2008.
Trivia: Basil Valdez wasn't always a solo artist. He was a member of Circus Band in 1972 which disbanded a few years after.
Cheese factor: The ride along the wedded road need not be as calm as the melody of this song. There are lots of ways to spice up the relationship from a new perfume to some animal-print wallpaper.
9. "Pangako" by Ogie Alcasid
Mushiest lyrics: Pangako, hindi ka na mag-iisa / Pangakong magmula ngayo'y / Tayong dal'wa ang magkasama
Versions: Regine Velasquez recorded her rendition as theme song for her 2001 flick titled Pangako Ikaw Lang with Aga Muhlach. Since the release of her cover, the song has gained more popularity and has been used as a staple wedding track. There's no denying the powerful voice of the Asia's Songbird.
Trivia: On his first major attempt to enter the music scene in 1989, Ogie Alcasid's self-titled debut album reached gold record status. Talk about raw talent.
Cheese factor: They say promises are meant to be broken, we say those who say that are bitter. Some promises are actually fulfilled all in the name of love.
10. "Forevermore" by Side A
Mushiest lyrics: I just can't believe that you are mine now / You were just a dream that I once knew / I never thought I would be right for you
Versions: Brenan Espartinez (you might remember him as "Agatom" from Sineskwela) recorded a remake of this 1994 Side A original under his self-titled album in 2009. His version is just dreamy. From an acoustic track, the song was transformed into a soul-R&B track that can make every listener fall even more in love with the song.
Trivia: The song reached platinum record status eight times over and bagged the Song of the Year Award in the 1995 Awit Awards.
Cheese Factor: No star is too far to reach especially when love's got your back. Just keep the faith.
Wedding Planning Tips for Brides
04.08.2010 Author: Mark Walters Posted in Weddings
There are some careful considerations that need to be thought over before planning a big event, such as a wedding. Although planning a wedding can be exhilarating and lots of fun, it is never easy and can turn into a very stressful time. Listed below are some of the things you will need to consider very carefully.
Place And Time – The first things that any wedding planner needs to determine is the location of the wedding and the time it will take place. Wedding venues can range from the city to the country and from outdoors to indoors. For outdoor weddings, choices can range from a breezy beachside ceremony to a cozy garden event. If you decide to have the wedding indoors, the next step is to decide whether to have a conventional church wedding or one in a hotel venue. The choice is ultimately yours; however, consider the ability for guests to easily arrive at the location. Once the place is decided, the time of the ceremony should be chosen. Do you want a wedding in the evening, afternoon, or morning? Again, consider the ability for most of your guests to attend at the time you chose. If these factors are not considered, the attending guests could be few and far between.
Decor And Design – Decorations are an integral part of any wedding, regardless of the location chosen. However, make sure the decor coordinates with the scenery. Flowers are typically the first decorating concern. Make sure the florist uses fresh flowers that will remain vibrant throughout the occasion. A few of the most popular flower selections are roses, tulips, daisies, and calla lilies. If you are having a church wedding, the options are limited for decoration, but consider trimming the pews or chairs with bows, ribbons, and tulle. If the venue is relatively minimal, consider integrating a wedding arch. It has great symbolic meaning for the union of two people and always makes a great backdrop for photographs after the ceremony.
Guests And Invitations – You will want to share your joy on your special day with all your family and friends, and you will want all your guests to have a lovely time. If you plan on feeding your guests, be sure that the menu is well-planned. Double count your guest list to ensure that you have provided enough food for everyone who is attending. If you like, you can ask your guests while the menu is still in the planning stage if they have any special dietary restrictions that would keep them from enjoying themselves. Plan your invitations so that they are in keeping with your decorations of the theme of your wedding.
These are a few of the basic elements of a good wedding. Remember, do not rush and be sure to make your decisions carefully. This is your special day, so enjoy all of the facets, including the planning, and everything else will fall into place.
There are some careful considerations that need to be thought over before planning a big event, such as a wedding. Although planning a wedding can be exhilarating and lots of fun, it is never easy and can turn into a very stressful time. Listed below are some of the things you will need to consider very carefully.
Place And Time – The first things that any wedding planner needs to determine is the location of the wedding and the time it will take place. Wedding venues can range from the city to the country and from outdoors to indoors. For outdoor weddings, choices can range from a breezy beachside ceremony to a cozy garden event. If you decide to have the wedding indoors, the next step is to decide whether to have a conventional church wedding or one in a hotel venue. The choice is ultimately yours; however, consider the ability for guests to easily arrive at the location. Once the place is decided, the time of the ceremony should be chosen. Do you want a wedding in the evening, afternoon, or morning? Again, consider the ability for most of your guests to attend at the time you chose. If these factors are not considered, the attending guests could be few and far between.
Decor And Design – Decorations are an integral part of any wedding, regardless of the location chosen. However, make sure the decor coordinates with the scenery. Flowers are typically the first decorating concern. Make sure the florist uses fresh flowers that will remain vibrant throughout the occasion. A few of the most popular flower selections are roses, tulips, daisies, and calla lilies. If you are having a church wedding, the options are limited for decoration, but consider trimming the pews or chairs with bows, ribbons, and tulle. If the venue is relatively minimal, consider integrating a wedding arch. It has great symbolic meaning for the union of two people and always makes a great backdrop for photographs after the ceremony.
Guests And Invitations – You will want to share your joy on your special day with all your family and friends, and you will want all your guests to have a lovely time. If you plan on feeding your guests, be sure that the menu is well-planned. Double count your guest list to ensure that you have provided enough food for everyone who is attending. If you like, you can ask your guests while the menu is still in the planning stage if they have any special dietary restrictions that would keep them from enjoying themselves. Plan your invitations so that they are in keeping with your decorations of the theme of your wedding.
These are a few of the basic elements of a good wedding. Remember, do not rush and be sure to make your decisions carefully. This is your special day, so enjoy all of the facets, including the planning, and everything else will fall into place.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Top 10 Best Churches for Weddings
From WikiPilipinas: The Hip 'n Free Philippine Encyclopedia
Churches are structures where religious bodies conduct ceremonies such as the sacrament of matrimony, the union of souls blessed by God. Philippine Churches have been witness to many marriages. With the many churches in the Philippines, it is not difficult to find an excellent wedding venue for couples dreaming of the wedding of a lifetime.
As this article will show you, dream weddings can come to life. We have picked the country's best churches for weddings, where dreams are bound to come true, and here are your Top 10!
1.Caleruega Church
Known as the Transfiguration Chapel and located at Batulao, Nasugbu, Batangas, this church stands proud and majestic at the highest point of Caleruega. Here, nature is at its glory, creating a well-orchestrated ambiance perfect for weddings and other intimate occasions.
The church is actually small and can seat just over a couple hundred but the area surrounding it is quite large with greeny hills in all directions. They also have several medium to large reception halls that couples can rent to serve as venue for the after-ceremonial party.
The church is so in-demand that would-be couples need to book a date a year ahead of the wedding date especially during peak seasons like June and December.
2. San Sebastian Church
The Church of San Sebastian is the only all-steel church in the world located in the heart of Quiapo, Manila. Based on UNESCO description, the church is a reflection of the late 19th century innovations in architecture, art and construction. It is declared a National Historical Landmark per Presidential Decree No. 260. In addition, the church was listed among the 1998 World’s Most Endangered Sites by the World Monuments Watch.
This church boast of neo-Gothic architecture - lancet arches, vaulted ceilings, tracery, and jewel-like stained glass windows. A fusion of ancient art and innovative construction, San Sebastian is undeniably a much-favored venue for weddings.
3. Manila Cathedral
Among the centuries-old churches that stand steadfast in Intramuros, Manila. This church's facade is in breathtaking Romanesque-Byzantine architecture featuring baroque elements, a perfect blend of contrasting styles. It features adobe walls, stone carvings, mosaic art, stained-glass windows and a very impressive main altar (a tribute to Our Lady of the Immaculate Conception) which are truly fit for vows made in heaven.
4. San Agustin Church
A wedding destination reminiscent of the country's glorious past, and home to marriages of promising future. The church serves as a major tourist attraction in the city and is frequently visited both by national and international tourists. San Agustin is located in the historic town of Intramuros, and stands out with its intricate design from floor to ceiling, especially its molave-carved doors. The church facade is built along neoclassic lines, complete with Ionic and Corinthian columns. It was designated one of the "World Heritage Sites" in the Philippines.
5. Santuario de San Jose Parish
Established as a Parish in 1965, Santuario de San Jose Parish has very beautiful interior and is perfect for a grandiose venue for weddings located in East Greenhills, Mandaluyong City. It is frequented mainly by the residents of Wack-Wack and Whiteplains, its parishioners.
Located within an upscale subdivision, privacy and security are ensured during the ceremony. The interiors reflect a subdued atmosphere with a magnificent altar that lends a certain grandeur.
6. Christ the King Church
Huge venue for equally big weddings located in Greenmeadows, Quezon City, perfect for beautiful exterior shots. The structure is round, enclosed by clear glass, allowing plenty of light to seep through, including a magnificent altar which would look good in pictures.
7. San Beda Chapel
Also known as the Abbey of Our Lady of Monserrat, located in Mendiola, Manila, inside the equally famous San Beda College. Richly neo-Gothic in style, the church is resplendent with its colorful interior with vault ceilings and half-dome. Murals and paintings abound from wall to ceiling, the most admired feature of the church.
8. Paco Church
Paco Church (St. Pancratius Chapel) is usually where solemn and intimate weddings take place. The perfectly designed facade in Romanesque architecture is beautifully set off by the serene ambiance of the historical Paco Park and cemetery.
9. Malate Church
One of the oldest churches in Manila with a fusion of Muslim and Baroque architecture. The church served as stone fortress of the British against the Spaniards in Intramuros. The church with its conservative-looking solid, compact, and dark stone structure is the perfect setting for couples wanting solemn vows.
10. Binondo Church
A 16th-century church located at Binondo, Manila where the Philippine Saint Lorenzo Ruiz started his ministry. From its original stone-walled, renaissance- inspired facade and interior, this church has been transformed after multiple renovations and is now known for its semblance to St. Peter's Dome interior and Madonna encased in glass.
Churches are structures where religious bodies conduct ceremonies such as the sacrament of matrimony, the union of souls blessed by God. Philippine Churches have been witness to many marriages. With the many churches in the Philippines, it is not difficult to find an excellent wedding venue for couples dreaming of the wedding of a lifetime.
As this article will show you, dream weddings can come to life. We have picked the country's best churches for weddings, where dreams are bound to come true, and here are your Top 10!
1.Caleruega Church
Known as the Transfiguration Chapel and located at Batulao, Nasugbu, Batangas, this church stands proud and majestic at the highest point of Caleruega. Here, nature is at its glory, creating a well-orchestrated ambiance perfect for weddings and other intimate occasions.
The church is actually small and can seat just over a couple hundred but the area surrounding it is quite large with greeny hills in all directions. They also have several medium to large reception halls that couples can rent to serve as venue for the after-ceremonial party.
The church is so in-demand that would-be couples need to book a date a year ahead of the wedding date especially during peak seasons like June and December.
2. San Sebastian Church
The Church of San Sebastian is the only all-steel church in the world located in the heart of Quiapo, Manila. Based on UNESCO description, the church is a reflection of the late 19th century innovations in architecture, art and construction. It is declared a National Historical Landmark per Presidential Decree No. 260. In addition, the church was listed among the 1998 World’s Most Endangered Sites by the World Monuments Watch.
This church boast of neo-Gothic architecture - lancet arches, vaulted ceilings, tracery, and jewel-like stained glass windows. A fusion of ancient art and innovative construction, San Sebastian is undeniably a much-favored venue for weddings.
3. Manila Cathedral
Among the centuries-old churches that stand steadfast in Intramuros, Manila. This church's facade is in breathtaking Romanesque-Byzantine architecture featuring baroque elements, a perfect blend of contrasting styles. It features adobe walls, stone carvings, mosaic art, stained-glass windows and a very impressive main altar (a tribute to Our Lady of the Immaculate Conception) which are truly fit for vows made in heaven.
4. San Agustin Church
A wedding destination reminiscent of the country's glorious past, and home to marriages of promising future. The church serves as a major tourist attraction in the city and is frequently visited both by national and international tourists. San Agustin is located in the historic town of Intramuros, and stands out with its intricate design from floor to ceiling, especially its molave-carved doors. The church facade is built along neoclassic lines, complete with Ionic and Corinthian columns. It was designated one of the "World Heritage Sites" in the Philippines.
5. Santuario de San Jose Parish
Established as a Parish in 1965, Santuario de San Jose Parish has very beautiful interior and is perfect for a grandiose venue for weddings located in East Greenhills, Mandaluyong City. It is frequented mainly by the residents of Wack-Wack and Whiteplains, its parishioners.
Located within an upscale subdivision, privacy and security are ensured during the ceremony. The interiors reflect a subdued atmosphere with a magnificent altar that lends a certain grandeur.
6. Christ the King Church
Huge venue for equally big weddings located in Greenmeadows, Quezon City, perfect for beautiful exterior shots. The structure is round, enclosed by clear glass, allowing plenty of light to seep through, including a magnificent altar which would look good in pictures.
7. San Beda Chapel
Also known as the Abbey of Our Lady of Monserrat, located in Mendiola, Manila, inside the equally famous San Beda College. Richly neo-Gothic in style, the church is resplendent with its colorful interior with vault ceilings and half-dome. Murals and paintings abound from wall to ceiling, the most admired feature of the church.
8. Paco Church
Paco Church (St. Pancratius Chapel) is usually where solemn and intimate weddings take place. The perfectly designed facade in Romanesque architecture is beautifully set off by the serene ambiance of the historical Paco Park and cemetery.
9. Malate Church
One of the oldest churches in Manila with a fusion of Muslim and Baroque architecture. The church served as stone fortress of the British against the Spaniards in Intramuros. The church with its conservative-looking solid, compact, and dark stone structure is the perfect setting for couples wanting solemn vows.
10. Binondo Church
A 16th-century church located at Binondo, Manila where the Philippine Saint Lorenzo Ruiz started his ministry. From its original stone-walled, renaissance- inspired facade and interior, this church has been transformed after multiple renovations and is now known for its semblance to St. Peter's Dome interior and Madonna encased in glass.
15 Wedding Details You Don't Need to Worry About
There seem to be a million details to planning your wedding. Here, we list items you can safely and cleverly save on without anyone noticing a thing.
by Denise Schipani
1. The Wedding Guest List
The guest list’s size is the biggest determinant of your total wedding cost, so keeping expenses trim is of the utmost importance. But if you’re worried that you’ll offend people by not inviting them to your wedding, stop now. Of course you wouldn’t leave out your nearest and dearest, and anyone else you’re considering would likely be flattered to be invited but not bothered if they’re not (think: the group of college friends who live on the other side of the country whom you’ve not seen in five years). Your best bet to tighten your list is to make some wedding invitation list rules (for you, your fiancé and both families) and stick to them. That is, first cousins, but not second. Spouses and live-in or serious partners, but not random dates. Your boss, but not your whole office. One caveat: don’t split up groups, says Syd Sexton, owner of Syd Sexton Event Productions, in Denver. “If you can invite your office gang, great. But if you can’t, don’t just invite one of them.”
2. The Wedding Flowers
The first time you gazed upon your wedding reception site, you saw veritable fields of flowers, right? It’s no surprise, though, that piles and piles of blooms can ratchet up your costs quickly. Sexton notes that you don’t need to fill every corner of your venue with flowers for a lovely look. Work with your wedding florist to use the freshest, most in-season blooms to their strategic advantage, then fill in the rest of the decor with budget-friendly candles or greenery. If you just adore flowers, check out botanical gardens in your area—you’ll have a bounteous backdrop of blooms at your disposal (for not a penny more).
3. The Wedding Reception Cocktail Hour
One cocktail-hour trend these days is to overload (read: over-impress) guests with everything from sushi bars to towering displays of cheese, to passed hors d’oeuvres to pasta and carving stations. But there’s no reason to make this a blowout, “Keep it short and sweet—this ensures that you’ll need less food—and have your hors d’oeuvres hand-passed instead of having stations. This limits the amount of food you’ll need.” Stick with just enough food to keep guests from getting too tipsy too early in the evening. A pretty display of cheese, fruit and crackers will do just fine.
4. The Wedding Reception Dessert Table
“Unless you’re having a dessert reception, you don’t need to go overboard on sweets. Wedding cake is so spectacular that offering a dessert buffet, a crêpes suzette station and mini ice cream cones is just excessive,” says Levine. “After all, you don’t want to weigh guests down with so many sweets during your wedding reception that they don’t have the energy to get out on the dance floor!”
5. The Drinks
First of all, says Weiss, feel free to skip the champagne toast. It’s no longer considered a must-do at weddings. Simply toast with whatever wine you already have on the table. As for your bar options, remember this is your party, so it’s entirely up to you, not your hard-partying college friends or the snooty aunts who prefer top-shelf martinis. Work with your reception site or caterer to create a bar you can afford, whether that means offering only beer, wine, water and soft drinks; a signature drink at the cocktail hour and red and white wines with dinner; or less-expensive liquors for mixed drinks rather than pricey brand names. Also, keep mixed drinks as simple as possible: The more varieties of liquor that are involved in assembling the drink, the more you will pay. “If you’re hiring an off-premise caterer and can buy your own alcohol, you can save even more by shopping around and being able to return unopened bottles,” notes Walls. Instruct the wait staff not to automatically top off guests’ wineglasses and, finally, arrange to have your bar closed an hour before the end of the party. You’ll be doing the drivers a favor.
6. The Five-Course Wedding Reception Meal
We know—you’re worried about wedding guests going home either hungry or unhappy with your food choices. Those worries have caused many brides and grooms to go down the path of offering too much—up to seven courses—and paying too much for it. If you’re looking to cut costs, “eliminate one course in the meal, and just serve an appetizer and an entrée,” says Walls. You can also stick to offering one or two choices for the entrée. Or instead of offering chicken, steak or salmon entrées, assemble a plate that combines, say, a few grilled shrimp and medallions of beef, plus a creative array of vegetables. (You may save 40 percent or more on your wedding reception, because your chef will know exactly what to buy for your head count.) Once you find a caterer that you really trust, you can work with him to find the most economical options. Rest assured quality always trumps quantity, and that no one will end up stopping at McDonald’s on the way home.
7. The Wedding Invitations
Engraved or letterpress wedding invitations are the ultimate, yes. And heavy cardstock, of course. But all of this is very costly. Choosing an unusual color, paper or design may also raise your wedding invitation costs more than you’re prepared for. If you’re a DIY-er (or if you know someone who is), design and make your own wedding invitations by hand or on a high-quality computer printer. Some calligraphic fonts are so good that it’s really hard to tell they’re not done by hand.
8. The Wedding Cake
A five-tier wedding cake tower covered with intricate sugarpaste flowers, ribbons, butterflies and bows? Gorgeous, yes. Necessary, no. The more elaborate the design, the more your wedding cake will cost. Ask your baker for options to keep the cost down, such as serving a smaller, tiered display cake and supplementing with a sheet cake that is brought out from the kitchen after the official cake cutting; doing less-pricey cupcakes in your wedding colors (always a big guest favorite!); or choosing less exotic fillings and less elaborate sugarpaste designs. You also may want to consider decorating the confection with fresh flowers instead of sugarpaste, as they cost less but give a luxe look. Another option: Instead of a specialty baker, hire a local one to make your cake—more affordable and guests will be just as happy!
9. The Transportation
Will anyone care if you don’t show up to your wedding or reception in a white limousine? No. White limos cost more than black or silver ones, so you may decide to cross that off your list. If you do hire a limousine, don’t have the car that took you to the ceremony wait for you all day—book another to come for you later (you’ll save on hourly rates). Do ask your limo company about wedding packages—they might have just the right one for you.
10. Wedding Favors
The experts don’t mince words: “Unless the favor is food—like some nice chocolates the guests can eat right then—it’s a wedding expense you can forgo,” says Walls. Weiss agrees. “Brides feel they have to give favors, but this should be seen as an extra. I am a huge fan of making donations to charities instead. You can do this and write an adorable note to each guest (and leave it at the place settings), in which you let them know you’ve donated in their honor.”
11. The Wedding Reception Venue
You’ve found out the price per person at your chosen reception venue, and it’s just plain too high. Don’t worry (and don’t overspend)—negotiate. But some brides are shy or they think this is tacky. “Uh-uh,” says Sexton. “In a tough economic climate, vendors expect it. Be honest about your budget, and ask, ‘What can you do for me with this amount?’ Or ask, ‘I see this is your lowest package price. Can you do a little better?’ ” If you are willing to play with days (a Friday or Sunday, say), times of day or seasons, you can work out a better deal. Still unconvinced that you should speak up? “The worst they can do is say no,” reasons Walls. And even if negotiating doesn’t get you a drastic cost reduction, you may get some extras thrown in (like trays of cookies for the tables, or top-shelf liquor for the price of generic brands). Remember: Wedding reception vendors want your business as much as you want a nice wedding.
12. The Wedding Rehearsal Dinner
You’ve already planned a major event—your wedding reception. You need not make the rehearsal dinner a mini wedding by booking an expensive restaurant or another catering place. “If you can, have it in the home of someone willing to host,” says Sexton. (Hint: perhaps someone wants to make this their gift to you!). “Do something casual, like a backyard barbecue. Or ask your wedding caterer if he or she is willing to cater it in a private home for a lower fee, as part of your wedding package.”
13. The Linens
On an unlimited budget, specialty linens add sparkle and a special touch. But the standard white or off-white table coverings included at most reception sites have kept their classic good looks! Perk up the tables with napkins tied with ribbons or rent stylish napkin rings.
14. Wedding Shoes
Focus your energy, your worries and your money on your dress—not your wedding shoes, advises Levine. “Why spend hundreds of dollars on footwear you’ll wear for a single day? Seriously—if you have a gorgeous gown, an amazing hairstyle and a flawless face, no one is going to be examining what’s going on below your ankles.” Find inexpensive (but comfortable) wedding shoes that complement your bridal gown, and leave it at that.
15. The Impression
Are you worried about wowing your guests? Don’t. Too many couples think it’s their obligation to dazzle their friends at their wedding with every extra on the books. “But all guests really want is to feel taken care of and special,” says Walls, “which you can do in little ways.” For example, be sure your wedding has good “flow,” without an uncomfortable time gap between ceremony and reception. Be sure your traveling guests have little amenities in their rooms, and that older guests don’t have far to walk. Weiss likes to leave milk and homemade cookies for wedding guests at the end of the night. “It makes everyone feel loved,” she says. “And isn’t that the way you want them to feel, when all is said and done?”
by Denise Schipani
1. The Wedding Guest List
The guest list’s size is the biggest determinant of your total wedding cost, so keeping expenses trim is of the utmost importance. But if you’re worried that you’ll offend people by not inviting them to your wedding, stop now. Of course you wouldn’t leave out your nearest and dearest, and anyone else you’re considering would likely be flattered to be invited but not bothered if they’re not (think: the group of college friends who live on the other side of the country whom you’ve not seen in five years). Your best bet to tighten your list is to make some wedding invitation list rules (for you, your fiancé and both families) and stick to them. That is, first cousins, but not second. Spouses and live-in or serious partners, but not random dates. Your boss, but not your whole office. One caveat: don’t split up groups, says Syd Sexton, owner of Syd Sexton Event Productions, in Denver. “If you can invite your office gang, great. But if you can’t, don’t just invite one of them.”
2. The Wedding Flowers
The first time you gazed upon your wedding reception site, you saw veritable fields of flowers, right? It’s no surprise, though, that piles and piles of blooms can ratchet up your costs quickly. Sexton notes that you don’t need to fill every corner of your venue with flowers for a lovely look. Work with your wedding florist to use the freshest, most in-season blooms to their strategic advantage, then fill in the rest of the decor with budget-friendly candles or greenery. If you just adore flowers, check out botanical gardens in your area—you’ll have a bounteous backdrop of blooms at your disposal (for not a penny more).
3. The Wedding Reception Cocktail Hour
One cocktail-hour trend these days is to overload (read: over-impress) guests with everything from sushi bars to towering displays of cheese, to passed hors d’oeuvres to pasta and carving stations. But there’s no reason to make this a blowout, “Keep it short and sweet—this ensures that you’ll need less food—and have your hors d’oeuvres hand-passed instead of having stations. This limits the amount of food you’ll need.” Stick with just enough food to keep guests from getting too tipsy too early in the evening. A pretty display of cheese, fruit and crackers will do just fine.
4. The Wedding Reception Dessert Table
“Unless you’re having a dessert reception, you don’t need to go overboard on sweets. Wedding cake is so spectacular that offering a dessert buffet, a crêpes suzette station and mini ice cream cones is just excessive,” says Levine. “After all, you don’t want to weigh guests down with so many sweets during your wedding reception that they don’t have the energy to get out on the dance floor!”
5. The Drinks
First of all, says Weiss, feel free to skip the champagne toast. It’s no longer considered a must-do at weddings. Simply toast with whatever wine you already have on the table. As for your bar options, remember this is your party, so it’s entirely up to you, not your hard-partying college friends or the snooty aunts who prefer top-shelf martinis. Work with your reception site or caterer to create a bar you can afford, whether that means offering only beer, wine, water and soft drinks; a signature drink at the cocktail hour and red and white wines with dinner; or less-expensive liquors for mixed drinks rather than pricey brand names. Also, keep mixed drinks as simple as possible: The more varieties of liquor that are involved in assembling the drink, the more you will pay. “If you’re hiring an off-premise caterer and can buy your own alcohol, you can save even more by shopping around and being able to return unopened bottles,” notes Walls. Instruct the wait staff not to automatically top off guests’ wineglasses and, finally, arrange to have your bar closed an hour before the end of the party. You’ll be doing the drivers a favor.
6. The Five-Course Wedding Reception Meal
We know—you’re worried about wedding guests going home either hungry or unhappy with your food choices. Those worries have caused many brides and grooms to go down the path of offering too much—up to seven courses—and paying too much for it. If you’re looking to cut costs, “eliminate one course in the meal, and just serve an appetizer and an entrée,” says Walls. You can also stick to offering one or two choices for the entrée. Or instead of offering chicken, steak or salmon entrées, assemble a plate that combines, say, a few grilled shrimp and medallions of beef, plus a creative array of vegetables. (You may save 40 percent or more on your wedding reception, because your chef will know exactly what to buy for your head count.) Once you find a caterer that you really trust, you can work with him to find the most economical options. Rest assured quality always trumps quantity, and that no one will end up stopping at McDonald’s on the way home.
7. The Wedding Invitations
Engraved or letterpress wedding invitations are the ultimate, yes. And heavy cardstock, of course. But all of this is very costly. Choosing an unusual color, paper or design may also raise your wedding invitation costs more than you’re prepared for. If you’re a DIY-er (or if you know someone who is), design and make your own wedding invitations by hand or on a high-quality computer printer. Some calligraphic fonts are so good that it’s really hard to tell they’re not done by hand.
8. The Wedding Cake
A five-tier wedding cake tower covered with intricate sugarpaste flowers, ribbons, butterflies and bows? Gorgeous, yes. Necessary, no. The more elaborate the design, the more your wedding cake will cost. Ask your baker for options to keep the cost down, such as serving a smaller, tiered display cake and supplementing with a sheet cake that is brought out from the kitchen after the official cake cutting; doing less-pricey cupcakes in your wedding colors (always a big guest favorite!); or choosing less exotic fillings and less elaborate sugarpaste designs. You also may want to consider decorating the confection with fresh flowers instead of sugarpaste, as they cost less but give a luxe look. Another option: Instead of a specialty baker, hire a local one to make your cake—more affordable and guests will be just as happy!
9. The Transportation
Will anyone care if you don’t show up to your wedding or reception in a white limousine? No. White limos cost more than black or silver ones, so you may decide to cross that off your list. If you do hire a limousine, don’t have the car that took you to the ceremony wait for you all day—book another to come for you later (you’ll save on hourly rates). Do ask your limo company about wedding packages—they might have just the right one for you.
10. Wedding Favors
The experts don’t mince words: “Unless the favor is food—like some nice chocolates the guests can eat right then—it’s a wedding expense you can forgo,” says Walls. Weiss agrees. “Brides feel they have to give favors, but this should be seen as an extra. I am a huge fan of making donations to charities instead. You can do this and write an adorable note to each guest (and leave it at the place settings), in which you let them know you’ve donated in their honor.”
11. The Wedding Reception Venue
You’ve found out the price per person at your chosen reception venue, and it’s just plain too high. Don’t worry (and don’t overspend)—negotiate. But some brides are shy or they think this is tacky. “Uh-uh,” says Sexton. “In a tough economic climate, vendors expect it. Be honest about your budget, and ask, ‘What can you do for me with this amount?’ Or ask, ‘I see this is your lowest package price. Can you do a little better?’ ” If you are willing to play with days (a Friday or Sunday, say), times of day or seasons, you can work out a better deal. Still unconvinced that you should speak up? “The worst they can do is say no,” reasons Walls. And even if negotiating doesn’t get you a drastic cost reduction, you may get some extras thrown in (like trays of cookies for the tables, or top-shelf liquor for the price of generic brands). Remember: Wedding reception vendors want your business as much as you want a nice wedding.
12. The Wedding Rehearsal Dinner
You’ve already planned a major event—your wedding reception. You need not make the rehearsal dinner a mini wedding by booking an expensive restaurant or another catering place. “If you can, have it in the home of someone willing to host,” says Sexton. (Hint: perhaps someone wants to make this their gift to you!). “Do something casual, like a backyard barbecue. Or ask your wedding caterer if he or she is willing to cater it in a private home for a lower fee, as part of your wedding package.”
13. The Linens
On an unlimited budget, specialty linens add sparkle and a special touch. But the standard white or off-white table coverings included at most reception sites have kept their classic good looks! Perk up the tables with napkins tied with ribbons or rent stylish napkin rings.
14. Wedding Shoes
Focus your energy, your worries and your money on your dress—not your wedding shoes, advises Levine. “Why spend hundreds of dollars on footwear you’ll wear for a single day? Seriously—if you have a gorgeous gown, an amazing hairstyle and a flawless face, no one is going to be examining what’s going on below your ankles.” Find inexpensive (but comfortable) wedding shoes that complement your bridal gown, and leave it at that.
15. The Impression
Are you worried about wowing your guests? Don’t. Too many couples think it’s their obligation to dazzle their friends at their wedding with every extra on the books. “But all guests really want is to feel taken care of and special,” says Walls, “which you can do in little ways.” For example, be sure your wedding has good “flow,” without an uncomfortable time gap between ceremony and reception. Be sure your traveling guests have little amenities in their rooms, and that older guests don’t have far to walk. Weiss likes to leave milk and homemade cookies for wedding guests at the end of the night. “It makes everyone feel loved,” she says. “And isn’t that the way you want them to feel, when all is said and done?”
Bridal Shower Basics
Games! Gifts! Gabbing! Here's a guide to this classic party for the bride. Learn the party-planning basics, and get ideas for themes.
At your bridal shower, you get to be the guest of honor as your closest female friends and relatives gather to girl-talk, eat…and lavish you with a truckload of amazing gifts. Even though this is one party you won't have to plan, it helps to know what to expect.
1. Hosts with the Most
The bridal shower is usually given by your bridal party or a close family friend. The total cost is often split among the maid of honor and bridesmaids, but mothers of the bride and groom often contribute financially, too, or offer to pay for something specific, like wine, the cake or party favors.
2. Perfect Timing
Showers typically take place on a Saturday or Sunday anywhere from two months to three weeks before the wedding. The exact time of day will be up to your hosts, but they'll likely plan a brunch, a luncheon or an afternoon tea that lasts three to four hours.
3. Who's Invited?
Important: Only people who will be invited to the wedding should be included in the shower; a group of 20 to 40 guests is standard. Invitations should be mailed out six weeks before the shower date or earlier, and must include the following: the names of the hostesses; the name of the bride (some shower hosts also include a "fiancé of…" line, as a courtesy to his family); the date, time and location of the party; whether it's a surprise; special themes or instructions (see sidebar, right); a contact name and phone number for RSVPs; and gift registry information.
4. Places to Party
Traditional showers usually take place at the home of a relative or close family friend, or in a private room at a restaurant. Others revolve around an activity—guests might meet at a pottery shop to make and paint clay objects, a design studio for a flower-arranging class or a jewelry store where they can create their own necklaces and bracelets. Nail salons and day spas are popular spots, too.
5. Girls Only?
Guess what? Showers aren't just for the bride any longer. Many couples today are feted with a coed "Jack & Jill" shower. It might be a cocktail party, a barbecue or drinks at a favorite nightclub. Not sure you want to forgo the all-female gathering? You don't need to: Having one of each is perfectly okay, but try not to duplicate invitees so that no one feels she must buy you more than one gift.
6. Let's Celebrate!
You'll spend the first part of the shower eating, drinking and mingling with your guests. The main event—opening gifts—usually takes place during coffee and dessert. You'll take a seat in front of the crowd and your bridesmaids (or other trustworthy volunteers) will hand you gifts to open. One bridesmaid will sit alongside you and jot down each gift and its giver—a helpful list to have when you write your thank-you notes. Playing games is optional.
SUPREME THEMES
Around the Clock. Guests are assigned a time of day, and then give a gift that pertains to that hour—mugs or a coffeemaker for 8 a.m.; cooking utensils for 6 p.m.; brandy snifters or a sexy negligee for 11 p.m.
Room of the House. Instead of times of day, guests are assigned “bathroom,” “dining room,” “bedroom” and so on. Expect to receive things like bathrobes, wine glasses and sheets.
Month of the Year. The guest who got “December” might give you a cozy blanket; “June” could give you an ice-cream maker; and “February” could give you some romantic DVDs.
Stock the Kitchen. This is great if your registry is chock-full of kitchen and cooking items. Guests are often asked to include a favorite recipe with their kitchen-related gift.
Linen Shower. Gifts that fall into the “linen” category: bedding, bath towels, napkins, place mats, tablecloths and so on. Alternatively, shower hosts can substitute linen for lingerie, which will net you an array of gorgeous top-drawer goodies.
6 Fun Ideas for a Girls' Night
Planning a fab bachelorette bash on a budget is easier than you may think. Here are six fun ideas you'll love.
It’s your last hurrah as a single, and you want to celebrate in style—without breaking the bank. Fortunately, there are scores of fun, affordable options for you and the girls.
1. Shoot the Breeze
If outdoor adventure suits your fancy, gather the group and check out the local campground. For a small fee, you can pitch a tent, build a fire and enjoy s’mores while trading stories all night long. Bring games and a radio, and make sure you have a camera to document the doings. To keep costs low, have everyone bring something—food, wine, camping gear or games, for instance. If you don’t live near a campground, simply pitch a tent in a friend’s backyard and pretend you’re nesting in the woods.
2. Cook Up Some Fun
Ever wish you could channel your inner Julia Child? If so, why not consider a cooking klatsch? Not only will you have fun with your friends, but you’ll also learn a new skill. After guests agree on a menu, they each cook a dish with help from a pro, then sit down to savor the meal they’ve prepared. Bon appétit!
3. Girlhood Revisited
Flash back to your girlhood by throwing an authentic slumber party—no boys allowed, of course! “Make the event even more grown-up by serving homemade pizzas topped with inexpensive yet gourmet ingredients like fresh arugula tossed with lemon juice and olive oil,” says Jes Gordon, author of Party Like a Rock Star (GPP Life). “Serve up a signature cocktail, and have your friends bring their favorite chick flick. Snack on spicy popcorn and Rice Krispie treats to make your gathering even more of a fiesta.”
4. Spa Tactics
If you and your friends yearn for a beauty day, but it’s not in the budget, consider an expedition to the local cosmetology school. Here you’ll get all the pampering you crave for much less—up to 70 percent of what it would cost at a local spa. When you’re finished, uncork a bottle of champagne to celebrate how beautiful you look!
5. Fun and Games
Who says poker is only for the boys? Girls, too, can enjoy a night of betting, bluffing and going for the full house. All you need is a deck of cards, some snacks and your best poker face. And, of course, a classic cocktail. Real-life bride Nicole Kirkitsos of New York took things a step further: After her party, she hired a limo for an hour to pick up the group and whisk them to their favorite no-covercharge dance club. Talk about luxe for less!
6. High Noon
Tried and true—but no less fun—is hosting a bridal lunch at a favorite restaurant. “Nowadays there are plenty of places offering great bargains,” says Denise Vivaldo, author of Do It for Less! Parties (Terrance Publishing). To add some esprit to the party, Vivaldo suggests having the bride write down her top concerns for the wedding, then solicit volunteers to help with each worrisome task—like writing thank-you notes. Hopefully, that task goes to the girl with the best handwriting!
It’s your last hurrah as a single, and you want to celebrate in style—without breaking the bank. Fortunately, there are scores of fun, affordable options for you and the girls.
1. Shoot the Breeze
If outdoor adventure suits your fancy, gather the group and check out the local campground. For a small fee, you can pitch a tent, build a fire and enjoy s’mores while trading stories all night long. Bring games and a radio, and make sure you have a camera to document the doings. To keep costs low, have everyone bring something—food, wine, camping gear or games, for instance. If you don’t live near a campground, simply pitch a tent in a friend’s backyard and pretend you’re nesting in the woods.
2. Cook Up Some Fun
Ever wish you could channel your inner Julia Child? If so, why not consider a cooking klatsch? Not only will you have fun with your friends, but you’ll also learn a new skill. After guests agree on a menu, they each cook a dish with help from a pro, then sit down to savor the meal they’ve prepared. Bon appétit!
3. Girlhood Revisited
Flash back to your girlhood by throwing an authentic slumber party—no boys allowed, of course! “Make the event even more grown-up by serving homemade pizzas topped with inexpensive yet gourmet ingredients like fresh arugula tossed with lemon juice and olive oil,” says Jes Gordon, author of Party Like a Rock Star (GPP Life). “Serve up a signature cocktail, and have your friends bring their favorite chick flick. Snack on spicy popcorn and Rice Krispie treats to make your gathering even more of a fiesta.”
4. Spa Tactics
If you and your friends yearn for a beauty day, but it’s not in the budget, consider an expedition to the local cosmetology school. Here you’ll get all the pampering you crave for much less—up to 70 percent of what it would cost at a local spa. When you’re finished, uncork a bottle of champagne to celebrate how beautiful you look!
5. Fun and Games
Who says poker is only for the boys? Girls, too, can enjoy a night of betting, bluffing and going for the full house. All you need is a deck of cards, some snacks and your best poker face. And, of course, a classic cocktail. Real-life bride Nicole Kirkitsos of New York took things a step further: After her party, she hired a limo for an hour to pick up the group and whisk them to their favorite no-covercharge dance club. Talk about luxe for less!
6. High Noon
Tried and true—but no less fun—is hosting a bridal lunch at a favorite restaurant. “Nowadays there are plenty of places offering great bargains,” says Denise Vivaldo, author of Do It for Less! Parties (Terrance Publishing). To add some esprit to the party, Vivaldo suggests having the bride write down her top concerns for the wedding, then solicit volunteers to help with each worrisome task—like writing thank-you notes. Hopefully, that task goes to the girl with the best handwriting!
5 Fun Engagement Party Ideas
Excited about your new status as an engaged couple? Check out these great ways to celebrate the big news with your friends and family.
Whether you're hosting your own engagement party or a close friend or family member wanting to do something nice for the newly engaged couple, here are a few ideas for a celebration no one will forget.
1. A Backyard BBQ
If laid-back fun is what the couple is all about, then a backyard BBQ is the way to go. Set up some tables decorated with natural elements, such as leaves, branches and flowers from the garden, and add candles to create a beautiful glow if the party goes on well after the sun sets. Or, for something a little more elaborate, pick a theme and go with it—a country hoedown, a beach party or even a carnival. Once you've set the mood, fire up the grill and cook up all your faves.
1) Send guests home with these personalized bags 2) Keep your guests hydrated with a cool glass of lemonade decorated with mint and baby mums. 3) Have fun with the invitation 4) Take advantage of the great outdoors by using your trees and plants as part of the decor. Add some candles for a little mood lighting.
2. A Cocktail Party
Is the newly engaged couple a pair of night owls who love to party all night long? Rent out a club or turn your home into a trendy lounge and host a fun cocktail party. Make sure your bar is well stocked with champagne, wine and fun drinks. Keep the party going all night long with great music.
1) Your guests may not remember the evening, so send them home with a cocktail mix that reminds them exactly where they were and what they were celebrating. 2) Make an invitation that lets guests know what kind of party you're throwing. 3) Set up a dance floor and set up some cool lighting. 4) Toast to the couple's engagement with glasses of champagne.
3. A Classic Brunch
Keep the celebration simple with a Sunday brunch. Set out an assortment of the couple's favorite breakfast foods and let guests mingle while they drink their morning coffee.
4. A Surprise Party
If you're planning your own engagement party, why not surprise your guests with the news at the party? Invite everyone to the celebration but keep mum about what it's all about. Your big reveal can be as simple as an announcement or as elaborate as creating a movie re-enacting the proposal.
1) Let your guests in on the big secret with a toast to your engagement. 2) Already picked out your wedding colors? Give guests a sneak peak with your flower arrangements and other decor. 3) Give your guests a sugar rush with a fun candy bar. 4) Serve up fun finger foods like mini burgers and fries.
5. A Traditional Family Dinner
Want something a little more intimate? A traditional family dinner is the way to go—what better way to celebrate the big news than with a room full of family and close friends? Make reservations at a favorite restaurant or make it a potluck dinner at someone's home.
1) Create a romantic setting by putting up strings of twinkling lights. 2) Decorate the room with candles and bowls of floating flowers. 3) Personalize the event by serving the couple's favorite foods or cooking family classics.
Whether you're hosting your own engagement party or a close friend or family member wanting to do something nice for the newly engaged couple, here are a few ideas for a celebration no one will forget.
1. A Backyard BBQ
If laid-back fun is what the couple is all about, then a backyard BBQ is the way to go. Set up some tables decorated with natural elements, such as leaves, branches and flowers from the garden, and add candles to create a beautiful glow if the party goes on well after the sun sets. Or, for something a little more elaborate, pick a theme and go with it—a country hoedown, a beach party or even a carnival. Once you've set the mood, fire up the grill and cook up all your faves.
1) Send guests home with these personalized bags 2) Keep your guests hydrated with a cool glass of lemonade decorated with mint and baby mums. 3) Have fun with the invitation 4) Take advantage of the great outdoors by using your trees and plants as part of the decor. Add some candles for a little mood lighting.
2. A Cocktail Party
Is the newly engaged couple a pair of night owls who love to party all night long? Rent out a club or turn your home into a trendy lounge and host a fun cocktail party. Make sure your bar is well stocked with champagne, wine and fun drinks. Keep the party going all night long with great music.
1) Your guests may not remember the evening, so send them home with a cocktail mix that reminds them exactly where they were and what they were celebrating. 2) Make an invitation that lets guests know what kind of party you're throwing. 3) Set up a dance floor and set up some cool lighting. 4) Toast to the couple's engagement with glasses of champagne.
3. A Classic Brunch
Keep the celebration simple with a Sunday brunch. Set out an assortment of the couple's favorite breakfast foods and let guests mingle while they drink their morning coffee.
4. A Surprise Party
If you're planning your own engagement party, why not surprise your guests with the news at the party? Invite everyone to the celebration but keep mum about what it's all about. Your big reveal can be as simple as an announcement or as elaborate as creating a movie re-enacting the proposal.
1) Let your guests in on the big secret with a toast to your engagement. 2) Already picked out your wedding colors? Give guests a sneak peak with your flower arrangements and other decor. 3) Give your guests a sugar rush with a fun candy bar. 4) Serve up fun finger foods like mini burgers and fries.
5. A Traditional Family Dinner
Want something a little more intimate? A traditional family dinner is the way to go—what better way to celebrate the big news than with a room full of family and close friends? Make reservations at a favorite restaurant or make it a potluck dinner at someone's home.
1) Create a romantic setting by putting up strings of twinkling lights. 2) Decorate the room with candles and bowls of floating flowers. 3) Personalize the event by serving the couple's favorite foods or cooking family classics.
Taming the Big, Bad Budget
Don’t let the economy scare you—cutting expenses too deeply can put your wedding at risk. Here’s how to trim safely.
by Sharon Naylor
Nowadays, couples are rightfully concerned about wedding expenses—and many brides and grooms are shaving large amounts from their budgets. But our advice is: Look before you trim. Don’t shortchange your dream by sacrificing too much in the most important areas of your big-day celebration. Here, we take a peek at each wedding category and list ways to keep costs down—without going overboard.
The Location
The Menu
Couples quickly discover that catering can eat up the lion’s share of the wedding budget. Some ways not to shortchange hungry friends and families:
by Sharon Naylor
Nowadays, couples are rightfully concerned about wedding expenses—and many brides and grooms are shaving large amounts from their budgets. But our advice is: Look before you trim. Don’t shortchange your dream by sacrificing too much in the most important areas of your big-day celebration. Here, we take a peek at each wedding category and list ways to keep costs down—without going overboard.
The Location
Your site, or venue, should have special meaning to you and be beautiful to behold, whether it’s by the sea or on a mountaintop, in a garden, a ballroom or on a yacht.- Many couples are choosing historic homes with gardens or a friend or relative’s backyard. Go for a nature museum, a Napa Valley winery, a botanical garden or a New England inn.
- Rates may vary, according to the day of the week and the season, so prepare to negotiate for a good price. Parks can be perfect—and they can be had at low cost.
- Anything outdoors requires a tent or a backup indoor space. If you have to rent a tent, tables, chairs, a dance floor and other essentials, spend more for better rental items. You don’t want guests sitting on rickety chairs or dining at wobbly tables.
- Ask the rental agent for a discount for renting more than 50 of each of these items: chairs, tables, china and glasses. You may be able to negotiate for a 10 percent to 20 percent break on the price.
The Menu
Couples quickly discover that catering can eat up the lion’s share of the wedding budget. Some ways not to shortchange hungry friends and families:
- At the cocktail party, treat them to hand-passed hors d’oeuvres—but keep these to five or six selections—and unique gourmet stations. For example, consider having an Asian station with lots of noodles, veggies and spicy sauces, with the food served up from giant woks with lots of style by the chef. (It’s much less expensive than it looks!)
- Ask your caterer about mixing some pricier, exotic foods into your menu, such as chunks of lobster added to budget-friendly creamy risotto, served in individual porcelain spoons.
- Have your caterer create savory presentations of food, such as mini kebabs of meats and veggies, as well as gazpacho served in shot glasses. The better the food looks, the more guests will appreciate it.
- If you think you can’t afford a sit-down dinner, think again. By offering a combination platter, with three or four pieces of grilled shrimp or crab cakes, plus several marinated beef medallions and an artistic arrangement of colorful steamed vegetables, you can save more than forty percent. Or eliminate one course of the dinner and just serve a salad, an appetizer and the entrée.
- If you want to offer seafood and shellfish, check the prices of different varieties shortly before the big day. Then you can choose the best-priced option—perhaps a delicious tilapia entrée for half the price you’d spend on salmon.
- Don’t forget that a special sauce can punch up a budget-friendly chicken or pasta entrée and give the impression that you spent more than you did.
The Drinks
Beware of stinting too much here! Most people can distinguish a fine wine from a cheap one, so take a smarter approach:
- Schedule a wine tasting with your site manager and bar manager, and ask to test well-rated wines. You might decide that the mid-list vintages are the perfect choices for your bar for less money.
- Ask about any so-called dead stock: for example, a leftover case of New Zealand pinot grigio or two cases of a Napa cabernet that they happen to have in stock.
- You can also save money stylishly by offering unique microbrew beers over imported brands.
The Cake
Schedule a tasting with the baker and ask to taste the no-extra-charge flavors and fillings. A lemon cake with lemon buttercream filling and coconut shavings is a real treat, and it will look more expensive than it is. And don’t forget that a lovely two-tier wedding cake is just as impressive as a five-tier creation that costs four times as much.
The Flowers
Since nothing says wedding more than beautiful blooms, don’t prune your petals too much. At the same time, instead of breaking the bank on large ornate table arrangements, think small, in season and locally grown. Surround centerpieces with votives; choose inexpensive glass vases and use lots of greenery—green is chic. Have your florist create one centerpiece and then gather your bridal party to copy it— you’ll save on costs and have a ball, to boot.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Waterproofing your Wedding
You do not have to stall you wedding because of the rain, it is a blessing.
Here are some things to keep in mind when holding your wedding duringthe rainy months. As it is rainy season, always anticipate that at least a drizzle during your wedding day. It is really helpful to have your bridesmaids and groomsmen prepare an umbrella in handy once it starts to drizzle. This is a small detail that tends to be overlooked. In the larger scale though, it is best to keep the wedding indoors. An outdoor wedding or a beach wedding is not that of a great idea during these months. Keeping it indoors would not only give you ultimate safeguard from the thunderstorm that is raging outside.
There are a good number of hotels or reception venues in the city and the neighboring towns that could offer cozy indoor spaces for the reception. Even in resort hotels, a restaurant overlooking the beach would give a good protection from the rain and at the same time will give a more or less same beach feel.
But if it is a beach or a garden wedding that you are dreaming of, there is no way that the rain would stop you. Most caterers or resorts have tents that they can rent for these types of weddings. Just be sure to ask if you are planning to hold your wedding outdoors. A well decorated tent would not only save your dress from getting soaked but also prevent sunburn if the sun is up. Well, a tent surely would not ruin the moment nor it would change the fact that you can still dip your toes in the sand or smell the scent of flowers and enjoy the fluttering butterflies.
A backup plan of an indoor setting should always come in handy during outdoor weddings. Most resorts always have a backup venue indoors however there are also thing that you need to consider. Although the back-up venue is always not as beautiful as the original outdoor setting, there are always some things that can be done when the rain falls. It would help if the decorations are light and can be carried when the inevitable happens. Instead of placing flowers on heavy stands, light materials that can be easily mounted and removed would do the trick. A stylish yet sturdy fondant icing cake surely will not fall off when carried indoors. If everything is light and can be easily carried around, setting up the back up venue to a cozy reception would not pose much of a hassle that is already there.
When you are ready, certainly, when it rains it would not pour but will make way to a picture perfect setting sun. as what an old belief says, the rain pours in blessings to the newlyweds.
Here are some things to keep in mind when holding your wedding duringthe rainy months. As it is rainy season, always anticipate that at least a drizzle during your wedding day. It is really helpful to have your bridesmaids and groomsmen prepare an umbrella in handy once it starts to drizzle. This is a small detail that tends to be overlooked. In the larger scale though, it is best to keep the wedding indoors. An outdoor wedding or a beach wedding is not that of a great idea during these months. Keeping it indoors would not only give you ultimate safeguard from the thunderstorm that is raging outside.
There are a good number of hotels or reception venues in the city and the neighboring towns that could offer cozy indoor spaces for the reception. Even in resort hotels, a restaurant overlooking the beach would give a good protection from the rain and at the same time will give a more or less same beach feel.
But if it is a beach or a garden wedding that you are dreaming of, there is no way that the rain would stop you. Most caterers or resorts have tents that they can rent for these types of weddings. Just be sure to ask if you are planning to hold your wedding outdoors. A well decorated tent would not only save your dress from getting soaked but also prevent sunburn if the sun is up. Well, a tent surely would not ruin the moment nor it would change the fact that you can still dip your toes in the sand or smell the scent of flowers and enjoy the fluttering butterflies.
A backup plan of an indoor setting should always come in handy during outdoor weddings. Most resorts always have a backup venue indoors however there are also thing that you need to consider. Although the back-up venue is always not as beautiful as the original outdoor setting, there are always some things that can be done when the rain falls. It would help if the decorations are light and can be carried when the inevitable happens. Instead of placing flowers on heavy stands, light materials that can be easily mounted and removed would do the trick. A stylish yet sturdy fondant icing cake surely will not fall off when carried indoors. If everything is light and can be easily carried around, setting up the back up venue to a cozy reception would not pose much of a hassle that is already there.
When you are ready, certainly, when it rains it would not pour but will make way to a picture perfect setting sun. as what an old belief says, the rain pours in blessings to the newlyweds.
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