Do You Need a Wedding Dance?

Question: Do you need a wedding dance?

My fiance and I are planning a wedding. We plan to have a small ceremony and a small reception. We won't have a live dj, but we will have music. Do we need a wedding dance?

Answer: While a wedding dance is certainly not a requirement for getting married, it is a fun and special tradition. If you are planning on having a reception following your wedding ceremony, your guests will surely enjoy witnessing your "first dance" as husband and wife.
If time and budget allow, consider wedding dance lessons. Not only will you look great and dazzle your guests, you will also acquire a skill together that you will be able to use for the rest of your lives. Having the ability to dance as a couple is special, as there will be so many opportunities for dancing throughout your lives. Use your wedding as an excuse to learn...you won't regret it.

The Wedding Processional

One of the grandest part of any wedding ceremony is when the bridal party makes its entrance.

The air is full of anticipation, and the groom anxiously awaits his first glimpse of his bride in her wedding dress. But do you know what order your bridal party should walk in? And who escorts the mother of the bride? Different types of wedding processionalsThe order of wedding processionals follows a general pattern, but varies according to religious traditions. For example, here is a Catholic wedding processional:The priest, groom, and best man enter through a side door and wait at the altar. The groomsmen and bridesmaids walk down in pairs, starting with the two who will stand farthest from the bride and groom, and ending with the best man and maid of honor. The ring bearer and/or flower girlThe bride and her father, or other close family member. The bride walks on the left side. If the bride's escort is her father, he leads her to the front of the aisle, then takes his seat next to the bride's mother.However, for a Jewish wedding processional, the order goes something like this:The Rabbi and/or cantorGrandparents of the bride, who are then seated in the first rowGrandparents of the groom, who are then seated in the first rowGroomsmen, walking in pairsBest manThe groom, who is escorted by his parents.

BridesmaidsMaid or Matron of HonorRing bearer and/or flower girl The bride, escorted by her parentsAnd for a Protestant wedding, this is the traditional order of a wedding processional:The mothers of the bride and groom are seated after all guests are seated, and immediately before the start of the processional music. They are usually escorted to their seats by a brother of the bride or groom, or by another usher. After they are seated, the officiant, groom and best man enter by a side door and wait at the altar. Groomsmen may also enter by a side door, or can escort the bridesmaids. BridesmaidsRing bearer and/or flower girl Maid or Matron of HonorThe bride, escorted by her father or other close male family member or friend. At the front of the aisle, her escort can remain standing with her until the minister asks "Who gives this woman in marriage?" to which he responds "I do," or "Her mother and I do." However, some people feel this tradition is old fashioned and sexist, and choose to forgo it. In such a case, her escort walks with the bride to the front of the aisle, and then takes his seat in the front row. For a non-denominational ceremony, a secular ceremony, or a non-traditional ceremony, you can either borrow liberally from one of these traditions, or make up your own rules. In all cases, the bride traditionally stands on the left, and the groom on the right. This dates back to medieval times when the groom might need to defend his bride in the middle of the ceremony, and wanted to leave his right hand, his sword hand, free. While few grooms even carry a sword anymore, the tradition has lasted. A wedding processional using two aislesPeople tackle the problem of two aisles in a variety of ways. You can choose to only use one aisle, but this means that many of your guests will feel far from the action. I often advise couples to do the processional up one aisle, and the recessional down the other. Another alternative is to have bridesmaids walk up one aisle, and groomsmen up the other. The bride and groom can then each choose an aisle to enter through. A wedding processional with a small bridal partyIf you only have a few people in your bridal party, it's a good idea to send them up one by one. For example, if you had a best man, maid of honor, flower girl, and ring bearer this should be the orderGroom takes his place at the frontBest man entersMaid of Honor walks up aisleRing BearerFlower GirlBride, with escort if she has one. With such a small wedding party, it's probably not formal enough to warrant a formal seating of the mothers and grandmothers. However, if you still want to do this, let the best man seat the grandmothers and the groom seat the mothers as part of their entrances.

Don't forget to smile! It's a good idea to have either a coordinator, or a friend with a written list helping to line up the bridal party and telling each person when to go. They can stand just beyond where the guests can see them. They should also remind each person to smile when they're walking down the aisle!

How to Write and Give Great Wedding Toast

Anyone who's been to a wedding has heard someone give a wedding toast at the reception.

Oftentimes it's given by the father of the bride, the best man, or a close friend or relative of the bride or groom.

Having been the recipient of a dreadful (i.e. long-winded and embarrassing) wedding toast at my own wedding and been a guest who has heard others' mortifying/idiotic wedding toast splutterings, I offer these tips for those who want to write and give a great wedding toast.

Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: 2-3 hours over a few days

Here's How:

If you are not known to 50 percent of the assembled group, plan to briefly identify yourself and your relationship to the couple before you launch into the toast.

Then start the wedding toast off by offering a remark about the wonderful/touching/elegant/memorable/unique (or fill in your own adjective) ceremony you have all witnessed.

Like a speech, a wedding toast has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Don't plan to offer an impromptu wedding toast unless you're very good at thinking on your feet. Instead, well before the wedding ceremony, write down your thoughts about the couple. What have people who love them said about their match? What occurs to you about their union? Do they have shared interests or passions?

Identify and articulate positive qualities about the bride, the groom, and the two as a couple as you start to write the wedding toast. If you want to briefly walk down memory lane in your wedding toast, it's ideal to choose a memory that involves both the bride and the groom. Was there anything unique in the way they met? Or their engagement? These can make interesting anecdotes.

Essentially, the wedding toast you give should be warm, personal, and brief. If you are a stand-up comedian, insert jokes. If you are not, play it straight. While you may have the urge to entertain, keep in mind that to the bride and groom your words will be remembered forever.

Stumped for what to say? The Internet is filled with great quotations that you can use to start off your speech or get inspiration from.

Do not give a wedding toast if you're drunk. Period. If the wedding toast is being recorded by a photographer or videographer, visit the restroom before you give the toast to straighten your hair and clothing.

Other don'ts: Don't mention previous girlfriends, boyfriends, or spouses in a wedding toast. Don't talk about the cost of the wedding or wedding gifts. Don't talk about future plans the couple may have confided to you. This includes pregnancy and children. And don't make jokes about the honeymoon.

Do end the wedding toast on a high and hopeful note. Express all the good wishes in the room for the new couple's happy, healthy, prosperous future.

Finally, ask the assembled group to join you in the wedding toast, lift your Champagne glass, and say, "To (name of bride) and (name of groom)...."

Let everyone know the wedding toast is complete by adding your favorite clean down-the-hatch phrase, such as Cheers! or the ethnic Salut!, L'chaim!, A votre sante!, Za vashe zdorovye!, Prosit!, Skal! et cetera.

Tips:

Keep the wedding toast short, under five minutes.

Focus on the couple, and face them when you toast. Avoid talking about your own marriage or relationship.

Keep in mind that parents and older people will be present, so don't work blue.

Allow yourself time beforehand to rehearse the wedding toast. If you tend to get nervous in front of groups, it's okay to read it from a card.

Let your warmest feelings for the couple shine through.

What You Need:

Feeling of confidence

Clear voice that carries

Glass of Champagne

Attention of the guests

Smile.

Wedding Table Centerpieces Ideas

If you are planning to have a grand wedding but your budget is limited, why not settle for inexpensive wedding table centerpieces? Usually, these materials are costly and they could even be more expensive than your bouquet, especially if you want to use them in a grand wedding. Some brides want to outshine their friends by preferring for more extravagant wedding ornaments.

There are florists that offer them the latest in designs of wedding accessories, modern display techniques, and the most attractive flowers, but all of these are sold at high prices. With your tight budget, the best thing for you to do is opt for more affordable centerpieces. You can still come out with a grand wedding if you really wish by considering the following options:

First, set an appropriate theme and size of the area where you will put the centerpieces. Your choice of these materials should suit the size of the reception tables leaving enough space for other important items such as plates, serving trays, bottles and glasses. Search from discount stores for nice containers to be used as main display holders.

Second, cheap fresh flowers are rare nowadays so, if you can’t find them, you can just use fresh herbs as wedding table centerpieces. They can be a good alternative to fresh flowers and they smell fragrant too. You can combine herbs with different colors and leaf shapes, then, group them together in a nice vase.

Third, you can organize a simple and low-cost table arrangement yet elegant in appearance, by using reflective glasses with pine cones. You can create a trick in the table arrangement by utilizing personalized wedding favors in place of a central display. In this kind of arrangement, you can have more space for all the dishes and food containers on the table.

Fourth, if you really want the presence of flowers as centerpieces, you can just purchase cheap artificial flowers. Get some colored sand and foam available in online floral stores, then, pour them into a small vase or any reflective glass, and put one artificial flower inside.

Fifth, if you’re planning for a beach wedding, you can attach shells into pots made of ceramic for use as table centerpieces. Offer your guests with tall glasses containing shells as a wedding favor.

There are many alternatives for you to organize a grand wedding with affordable wedding table centerpieces. All you need is a sense of creativity and a wide imagination to organize them.
Take a look at more beautiful wedding reception centerpieces today and find more beautiful ideas for your wedding reception.

Special Needs

Make sure you find out and notify the caterers of dietary preferences, e.g. vegetarian, kosher, halal, nut allergies and gluten intolerance.

Order high chairs, or other appropriate seats, for small children.

Inform the caterers of any guests in wheelchairs who won’t require seats.

Table Decorations

Besides cutlery, crockery and glasses, items on the table can include:

a table centrepiece (usually one or more of: flowers, candles or balloons)
table glitter
favours
a table number card (often in a card holder)
place cards
menus
disposable cameras

It is a good idea to lay it all out on an appropriate size table, before the big day, to make sure it doesn’t look cluttered. You may be able to combine table cards, menus and/or favours into one item to save space and money.

Make sure any flowers, table cards or other displays on the table aren’t so large that they prevent guests seeing each other.

If you are putting people who don't know each other together, it may be a good idea to provide them with a quiz or some other form of 'ice breaker'.

Give each child a ‘goody bag’ to keep them amused. This can contains balloons, pencils and paper, small toy etc. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Don’t give them anything that can cause stains or permanent marks!

Bubble blowing kits can be fun but you may end up with soapy tasting food and a slippery dance floor.

Disposable cameras can be a cheap and fun way to record an event. But make sure you leave clear instructions that you want guests to finish the film (you don’t want 10 half-finished films) and what you want them to do with the camera afterward. You might also need to remind people to use the flash indoors.

Table Name Cards

If you are feeling creative you can give tables names instead of numbers. This is very common for weddings. Numbered tables are less work and easier to find if they are laid out logically. Named tables add a bit more atmosphere and are useful if you are worried about guests being offended about not being seated on “table 1”.

Possible table naming themes include:
flowers (e.g. roses)
gemstones
countries/towns
colours
actors/films/TV programs
bands/songs
cocktails/whiskies/wines
sweets (=candies)
animals/birds/butterflies
sports teams
dances
Disney characters
a word or phrase in different languages (such as ‘I love you’)
famous romantic couples
something appropriate to the number of tables, e.g. the names of the 7 seas or 7 dwarves for 7 tables
cars/motorbikes
something related to your hobbies/interests

You can also liven up numbers, for example include a picture of the hosts at age 1 on table 1, at age 2 on table 2 etc.

Table Number Cards

Table number cards are placed on tables to display the table name or number. They should be large enough to read without having to walk right up to the table.

Table number cards are usually large tent fold cards, or flat cards in a holder. Make sure they aren’t so tall that they prevent guests seeing each other over the table.

If you have decided to name your tables you can theme the table number cards appropriately.
You can use ‘hearts’ playing cards for inexpensive table number markers, i.e. Ace of hearts for table 1, two of hearts for table 2 etc.

Escort Cards

Escort card show the name/number of the table a guest is seated at. It is usually inside a small envelope with the guest’s name written on the outside. You can also use a blank business card and write the name on one side and the table number on the other. Whether you prefer a seating chart or escort cards is a matter of personal preference. Escort cards can be changed up to the last minute, whereas a seating chart may need to be printed days or weeks in advance.

Escort cards can be as artistic or as plain as you like. If you choose an artistic font for your seating chart or cards (e.g. script or gothic), make sure it is readable by all your guests.

Escort cards are normally placed on a table, in alphabetical order, at the entrance to the venue.

Assigning Seats

If you are having speeches or announcements, make sure the people giving them are seated where they won't have their back to anyone.

Try to place pregnant, elderly and disabled guests and guests with small children where they have easy access to toilets and other facilities. Don’t seat them at tables that are going to be removed to make space after the meal.

Older guests will generally have poorer hearing and eyesight. Try to put them where they can see and hear any speeches. Do not put them next to loud music, they won’t appreciate it. Put children’s tables in the least favourable locations, they have better hearing and won’t be too interested in the speeches anyway.

RSVP Etiquette

Before you can arrange your seating plan you need to know how many guests are coming. You can confirm numbers by sending out RSVPs. Typically RSVPs are sent out at least a month before the event. Your RSVP should make clear:

the nature and location, date and time of the event
who is invited (are children invited?)
a deadline for accepting (expecting people to reply within a week is not unreasonable)
how they can accept or decline (e.g. telephone, letter or email)
(optional) choice of meal

RSVP cards often include a space for the guest to fill-in and return.

You should always include a date by which people must reply, otherwise some people may decide to leave it to the day before the event. Chase up stragglers with a phone call once the reply deadline has expired.

If it is an important event and you want to warn people to keep the date free long before you send out RSVPs, you can send ‘save the date’ cards.

Little Known Fun Facts About Wedding

One of the most important and traditional ceremonies in our lives. Ever wonder how some of our wedding traditions got started? Here’s some:
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The word wedding comes from the Anglo-Saxon wedd, meaning a pledge.

In olden days, a man "plighting his troth" meant entering a legal agreement, which is where we get the term "betrothal."

In many African tribes, a man cannot marry until he, his father, or uncles have paid a brideswealth in money, livestock or other valuables to the girl’s family.

The dowry system, in which a bride was expected to bring valuables to the marriage, was observed in many cultures. It was originally intended as compensation for the burden undertaken by the new groom of supporting a wife.

Bridal showers date back to the dowry system as a way for the bride to gain a dowry.


Arranged marriages are still customary in some cultures even today. The Hindus of India is one.

The tradition of wearing wedding rings on the third finger has two sources: one started back in ancient times when it was believed that the third finger had a nerve that ran straight to the heart; the second is metaphorical, while every other finger can be extended to its full length and straightness alone, the ring finger can only be fully extended in the company of an adjacent finger.

Before the late 18th century, diamonds were so rare and scarce, that only the very rich could afford to give them as engagement rings.

Wedding rings are made of gold because it was believed that it was the most pure of all metals and therefore symbolic of the union of marriage.

Most marriage still occur in the month of June. The tradition started with Roman brides because June is named after the Roman god Juno, the Goddess of Love and Marriage.

Amish weddings are permitted only after the harvest and normally take place during the week, not the weekend.

Something old, something new, something borrowed something blue:

Old as a guarantee that the love and affection she enjoyed before her marriage will endure,

New for success in her new life,

Borrowed as a symbol that friends may always be helpful when needed,

Blue to designate her loyalty and devotion to her groom.

Note: in England the above saying had one more line: ‘a sixpense in your shoe." Brides put money in their shoe as a sign of good fortune.

The tradition of the best man started to keep the groom from going back for anything once he started for the church or wedding ceremony. Turning around and going back for any reason was considered a very bad omen for the wedding. The best man was to prevent that from happening.

In several ancient societies where men would often gain a bride through kidnapping, the best man’s job was to assist the groom in grabbing the girl, then guarding the place of their first union so as not to be disturbed by the girl’s family coming to retrieve her.

In Switzerland a pine tree is planted at the home of the newly wed couple as a sign of fertility and good luck.

Groomsmen were basically henchmen. Originally made part of the wedding party by the groom in order to keep too many uninvited people from joining in the celebration and the wedding party getting big, rowdy and uncontrollable. Today, they are simply symbolic.

In Kenya, artist paint the hands and nails of a new bride. The paint stays on for one year to show the status of a newly married woman.

The small tissues that are often enclosed in wedding invitations started back in the old raised printing press days, when it was necessary to include small pieces of rice paper to keep the printing from smearing. With today’s modern printing methods the tissue is no longer needed, but they are include because of tradition.

The bridal veil predates the wedding dress by almost 2,000 years.

The color blue thought to be symbolic of virtue and innocence of a first love, has been associated with weddings much longer than white.

Before white wedding dresses became customary, the color of a dress was thought to be superstitious. Here is the color code:

Married in white, you have chosen alright

Married in green, ashamed to be seen

Married in blue, love ever true

Married in pink, it’s you he will always think

Married in grey, you will go far away

Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead

Married in yellow, ashamed of your fellow

Married in black, you’ll wish yourself back

Traditional Chinese brides often wear red, which symbolizes joy and love. White denotes hope and is usually reserved for funerals.

The traditional wedding costume of a Navaho Indian bride is a dress woven in four colors, symbolic of the four directions of the compass.

The tradition of brides carrying flowers started centuries ago. At first the brides often carried stalks of wheat, corn or fruit to symbolize her bringing a fertile body to the union and a promise of an abundance of children.

The tradition of the bride throwing the bouquet started in France in 1300. The belief was that whomever caught the bouquet would be the next to marry.

In traditional Danish weddings two pieces of ribbon are tied during the ceremony as a symbol of the union of man and woman. This is where we got the phrase, "To tie the knot."

Over 40 different cultures around the world, including Navaho Indians face east for the ceremony, as east is believed to be the direction of the future.

In Christian ceremonies the bride stands on the grooms left. This was started when it may have been necessary for the groom to reach for his sword with his right hand in order to keep someone from riding up and stealing his bride during the wedding.

The wedding cake dates back to ancient Rome, when couples shared cakes of wheat flour with their guest as a symbol of their unity.

The first tiered wedding cake was made by a London baker who duplicated the spires of a nearby church. The church name was -
St. Brides!

Seating Arrangements

You might want to put people next to people they know, or you might want to split them up a bit so they meet new people. But try to put each person next to at least one person they already know. People are more likely to get on well if they are similar ages or have similar interests. It might not be a good idea to put your ’alternative lifestyle’ friend with the piercings and tattoos next to your 80-year-old grandmother. A little common sense goes a long way.
Generally you should try to put families together and work colleagues together. But if you know people don't get on, try seating them separately. It is worth breaking with tradition to have a stress free event.

Avoid mixing age groups too much. Young children should be seated with their parents. Older children can be seated with their parents, or on a table together.
Try to create balanced tables, with even numbers of males and females. It is traditional to alternate male-female-male-female guests in some cultures. Some business dinners are seated male-male-female-female for variety.

If it is a group of people that know each other well you could try splitting up married couples for extra variety.

Try to avoid putting guests on the same table as ex-partners, unless you are sure this is OK. Remember that every room has 4 corners!

Resist the temptation to have a ‘leftovers’ table of all the people who didn’t fit on other tables. It is probably better to distribute such guests evenly.

Do I Really Need Assigned Seating?

Shouldn’t guests choose where they sit? After all we are all adults! In fact a YouGov survey in February 2006 shows that a overwhelming 84% of wedding guests prefer assigned seating.

preferred being assigned to a specific seat - 51%

preferred being assigned to a table (can choose any seat)- 33%

free for all - no seats or tables assigned - 13%

Does not apply, do not/ would not attend a wedding reception - 3%


The results were particularly clear for guests aged over 50, only 8% of whom preferred unassigned seating.

Unassigned seating sounds great in theory and it is certainly one less chore for the organizer. Unfortunately it rarely works out so well in practice.

There may be an unseemly rush for the ‘good’ seats.
It will take a lot longer to get guests seated. They may still be milling around while the food is being served.
Your beautiful decor will be spoilt by people leaving their coats on chairs to reserve them.
The last few guests end up walking around looking for seats, a bit like the unpopular kid at school lunch.
Couples can get split up. It is not unknown for guests to end up eating outside the venue because they couldn’t get a seat together at a table.
Elderly relatives may end up seated where they can’t see or hear anything.
If people turn up uninvited (common in some cultures) they may take seats intended for your invited guests.
It can be a pretty miserable experience for guests:

“I hate going to a wedding where you have to find a table where all your friends and you can sit... or god forbid you are the people who know the couple but no one else... that is so horrible... even if you are assigned a table you still have to find a place to sit at it... yuck. That is just my opinion... can you tell I have been in this spot a time or two. I have a lot of friends that I have known since I was in grade school, but we went to different schools always, and never had the same group of friends... at their weddings there I was all alone, and no assigned seats, you feel like you are standing there and everyone is staring at you as you try to find what looks like a table of amiable people, and you end up sitting at the table with great aunt lucy because that is all that is left, and she tells you crazy stories that you never wanted to know... yikes... assigned seating is totally the way to go! Just from experience.” Kim on the brides.com discussion board

The larger the event, the bigger the risk you are taking with unassigned seating. In truth, organizers shy away from assigned seating mostly because of the time involved in assigning seats or tables. But it doesn’t have to be a huge chore if you use appropriate seating assignment software.

If you still decide to go for unassigned seating then you don’t need to read any further on this site. Just make sure you have more chairs than guests and good luck!

Interesting Facts About Wedding

What is the origin of the engagement ring?

The diamond engagement ring was introduced by the Venetians, who discovered the diamond's value in 16th century, but bethrothal gifts hadn't included rings until A.D.860, when Pope Nicholas I decreed that a ring of value must be given as a statement of nuptial intent and that if the man called off the wedding, the jilted bride kept the ring. If the woman ended the engagement, she was to return the ring and be sent to a nunnery.

Why do bridegrooms have a best man?

In ancient times, most marriages were arranged, and so the groom wasn't always the bride's first choice. The man she favoured would often swear to carry her off before or during the wedding. To avoid this, the groom stood on the bride's right to keep his sword arm free and would enlist a warrior companion to fight off the rival if he showed up. This companion was, in fact, the "best man".

Why is June the most popular month for weddings?

The ancient Greeks and Romans both suggested marriage during a full moon because of its positive influence on fertility. The Romans favoured June, a month they named after Juno, the goddess of marriage, because if the bride conceived right away, she wouldn't be too pregnant to help with the harvest. She also would probably have recovered from giving birth in time to help in the fields with the next year's harvest.

Why do brides wear wedding veils?

Although veils for women are today associated with Muslims, their origin goes back at least three thousand years before Mohammed was even born. Outside of the Middle East, this symbol of modesty had all but dissappeared by 400 B.C., when the Romans introduced sheer translucent veils into the wedding ceremony to remind the woman that she was entering a new life of submission to her husband. Veils predate the wedding dress by several centuries.

Why is it bad luck for the groom to see his bride before the ceremony on their wedding day?

It's bad luck for the groom to see the bride within twenty-four hours of the wedding ceremony for the same reason that brides wear veils. When marriages were arranged by two families, the groom wasn't allowed to see or even meet his bride until he lifted her veil after they were married. This way, he couldn't refuse to marry her if he didn't like her looks. The 24-hour ban descends from that ritual.

How did wedding cakes become so elaborate?

Most wedding rituals are to encourage fertility, and so it is with the wedding cake, which begun with the Romans breaking small cakes of wheat and barley over the bride's head. During the reign of Charles II, the three-tier cake with white icing we use today was introduced. The cake takes its shape from the spire of Saint Bride's Church in London. The couple cuts the first piece together as a gesture of their shared future, whatever it might bring.

How did throwing of rice become a wedding custom?

Because the main purpose of marriage was to produce children, ancient people showered the new bride with fertility symbols such as wheat grain. The Romans baked this wheat into small cakes for the couple, to be eaten in a tradition known as conferriatio, or "eating together". The guests then threw handfuls of a mixture of honeyed nuts and dried fruits called confetto at the bride, which we copy by throwing rice.

Why does a groom carry his bride over the threshold?

The custom of carrying a bride over the threshold comes from the kidnapping practices of the Germanic Goths A.D. 200. Generally, these men only married women from within their own communities, but when the supply run short, they would raid neighbouring villages and seize young girls to carry home as wives. From this practice of abduction sprang the now symbolic act of carrying the bride over the threshold.

Why is marriage called “wedlock”?

Wedd is an Anglo-Saxon word meaning “to gamble,” and there is no greater gamble than marriage. In the days when brides were bartered by their fathers, and a deal was reached with a prospective groom through an exchange of either property or cash, a young woman would have been bought and sold for breeding purposes to be finalized in a wedlock ritual called a wedding. This marriage led to matrimony, which in Latin means “the state of motherhood.”

Why is a husband-to-be called a “groom”?

Bride comes from the Old English word bryd, while the word guma simply meant “a young man.” The two words together, brydguma, referred to a suitor looking for a wife. This compound changed the sixteenth century when a groom evolved within the fold language to take over guma as a description of a young man, boy, or lad who was commonly hired to work for the stables and groom horses, among other chores, but who was still seeking a wife.

Why do we say that a married couple has “tied the knot”?

In Western culture, “tying the knot” suggests the pledge of inseparable unity made by a married couple. The expression comes from ancient India, when during the wedding ceremony the Hindu groom would put a brightly coloured ribbon around the bride’s neck. During the time it took to tie the ribbon into a knot, the bride’s father would demand a better price for his daughter, but once the knot was completed the bride became the groom’s forever.

Why are wedding-related items referred to as a “bridal”?

The expressions “bridal feast,” “bridal bed,” and “bridal cake,” among other bridal references, all date back to around 1200, when a wedding was a rather boisterous and bawdy affair. The world bridal comes from “bride-ale,” which was a special beer brewed for the wedding and then sold to the guests to raise money for the newlyweds. Because of the bride-ale, weddings were quite rowdy until around the seventeenth century, when the church managed to get a grip on the whole thing.

Why does the groom crush a glass with his foot at a Jewish wedding?

Near the end of Jewish ceremony, after the vows have been made, wine is poured into a new glass over which is a blessing and recited by the rabbi. After a couple drinks from the glass, it is places on the ground and crushed by the groom’s foot. This symbolizes the destruction of the Holy Temple in Israel and reminds the guests that love is fragile. Those gathered shout “mazel tov,” and the couple kisses.

Why do we call the first weeks of marriage a “honeymoon”?

The custom of a honeymoon began over four thousand years ago in Babylon, when for a full lunar month after the wedding, the bride’s father would supply his son-in-law with all the honey-beer he could drink. It was called the “honey month” the word honeymoon didn’t enter our language until 1546, and because few people could afford a vacation, a honeymoon didn’t mean a trip away from home until the middle of the nineteenth century.

Why do women cry at weddings?

Men might cry at weddings, but they have been socially conditioned that as a protectors and warriors signs of weaknesses such as tears invite attack. There is no such thing as “happy” crying. Psychologists suggest that when people cry at happy endings, they are reacting to the moment when the critical outcome in doubt. A women crying at a wedding is most likely expressing subconscious disappointment in the outcome of her own romantic dreams.

The Ideal Wedding Gown

Getting Started...

What's your personal style?

There are two rules of thumb:

-You want to look like yourself on your wedding day, so don't pick an over-the-top gown and a sweeping updo if you're usually a minimalist when it comes to clothing, hair, and makeup. You do, after all, want the groom to recognize the person walking down the aisle.

-Choose a gown that will actually look good on you. You may love the idea of strapless but hate your upper arms, so now is a good time to rein in your expectations about how dreamy your “dream dress” will be when it’s on. (You’ll also want to give some consideration to body types when it comes to bridesmaids’ dresses.)

Where are you getting married?

When you’re headed down the aisle, your surroundings can shape your wardrobe.

Four considerations:

The mood: If you’re getting hitched at city hall, you may want to rethink that seven-foot cathedral train. Similarly, a simple slip dress may not be the most appropriate choice if you’re having a black-tie fete at reception hall.

The religious affiliation of the location: Are there rules with regard to modesty? The guidelines vary between faiths and even same-denomination congregations – so don’t assume that all Catholic churches in Davao are OK with exposed arms and legs. (In general, sects of most religions in a very conservative Davao frown on showing a lot of skin.)

The lay of the land: Are you going to have your reception in an area complete with dust, dirt, and sand flooring? Then steer clear of floor-sweeping lace, which will act as a magnet for those brown bits. And a garden wedding can turn a long train from white to grass green before the photos have even been taken.

The temperature: In Davao, the temperature averages in the 30's and the humidity is high, you’ll want to wear a fabric like cotton eyelet that won’t wilt in the humidity. Meanwhile, if you know that you'll be protected with air conditioned environment then you'll want a wedding dress with a little heft to it, perhaps in satin or silk.

How much money are you willing to spend?

Be realistic. Don’t try on dresses that are way out of your budget. You certainly don’t want to fall head over heels for a dress that’s simply not an option.

If you are at the high end of the market: You can pick every element of your dress (a strapless bodice, an A-line skirt) with a couturier and a one-of-a-kind pattern will be created based on your exact measurements. Or you may want to purchase an existing style from a well-known designer label. The dresses in this pricey category are characterized by luxurious fabrics and a high level of handiwork, like perfectly finished seams and hundreds of delicate buttons.

If you are on a budget: There have never been better off-the-rack options. Hit the stores armed with your own “look book”, containing magazine tear-outs, photos from friends’ weddings, fabric swatches – anything that helps you communicate your taste to the sales staff. The more detailed, the better: “I like the neckline of this gown and the skirt of this one.” Be completely candid about your budget from the get-go. That way, you won’t waste a single moment trying on dresses that you’ll never end up buying.

YOUR BODY, YOUR DRESS

Brides comes in all shapes and sizes - and so should their dresses. Here's how to make sense of all the different styles and determine which gown will fit and flatter you most.

If you're pear-shaped

look for: A skirt that gradually flares out in an “A” formation from the natural waist to the floor, highlighting the narrowness of the midsection and floating away from the hips and thighs. (Sturdier fabrics, such as duchesse satin and taffeta, are especially effective, since they won’t cling.) A spaghetti strap bodice or a V-neckline will also showcase a more slender upper body.

keep in mind: A classic A-line silhouette lends itself to formal weddings, but it can also be dressed down when made from a more casual fabric, like eyelet lace or raw-silk shantung.

If you’re busty

look for: A dress with a scooped-neckline. It will open up your face and display your neckline without showing too much cleavage. If you love the look of strapless gowns, choose one that has a slight dip along the neckline rather than a style that goes straight across ( which will make your bust appear even larger and more shelflike.)

keep in mind: Fabric on the bodice that has sheen to it (such as organza, satin, or silk) will add volume and call attention to your chest. Material that is pleated or gathered will have the same effect.

If you’re plus-sized

look for: An Empire dress with a skirt that begins just under the bust and flows into a gradual floor-length A-line. Make sure the Empire seam does not start on the chest and that there is no pleating of the fabric, which is reminiscent of maternity wear. The dress should play up your shape, if it’s too loose, it will add pounds.

keep in mind: Find fabrics like satin that provide structure, rather than anything too flowy. If you love the romantic look of airier fabrics, choose a gown with a stiffer base, then add an embroidered tulle overlay.

If you’re apple-shaped

look for: A dress that cinches in at the smallest point on the waistline, then flares out into a gradual A-shape. Opt for a bodice with a lot of texture to it – think ruche or lace detailing – that will camouflage and fit snugly, creating a corset-like effect. The most slenderizing neckline for you is one with a deep V, which will draw eyes toward the vertical, not the horizontal.

keep in mind: Avoid trumpet dress styles, which emphasize the area where your body is widest and flare out at the legs and the knees, where you are most slender.

If you’re tall

look for: A simple silhouette. The strategy is to emphasize your natural shape, so every aspect of the dress – the lower waistline, a floor-sweeping hem – needs to reflect your longer proportions. If you’re wearing long sleeves, they should go past the wrist. You don’t want to look as if you’ve borrowed a gown from someone shorter than you.

keep in mind: Because you are statuesque, you’ll want to err on the side of simplicity when it comes to embellishments. Too many bells and whistles, like ruffles and rosettes, can come off as cutesy, particularly on a tall person.

If you’re straight-lined

look for: A dress that will create curves where you don’t have them. Try a sheath dress that’s cut on the bias. Or look for a ball gown that cinches in at your natural waist and descends into a full, flowing floor-length skirt: It will capitalize in your slenderness and camouflage a lack of hips.

keep in mind: If you have a small bust, look for a bodice with some pleating to create volume.

If you’re small-chested

look for: A pleated bodice. Extra fabric up top will help fill out your upper body and create the illusion of curves. Lightly padded halter styles will also do the trick.

keep in mind: The right bra will always provide a nice boost, but as many wedding dresses are strapless or backless, your undergarment may be fairly limited. Instead, try self-adhesive silicone bra cups.

DRESS UPGRADES

You’re never fully dressed without a few carefully selected accessories. Here’s how to put the finishing touches on your wedding day look.

WRAP

why choose it: You’re looking for extra coverage for a strapless gown or you just want an insurance policy against a chill.

what to consider: Options range from the simple (a white pashmina or a cashmere cardigan) to the ornate ( a beaded wrap).

You may want to wrap a satin gown in a panel made from the same fabric. Ask your dressmaker to order extra material from the same dye lot as your dress, as colors can vary slightly. Standard silk, chiffon, and lace wraps are sure bets too and with any luck, you’ll have an accessory you’ll actually wear again.

Headpiece

why choose it: Many women don’t feel fully bridal without a veil, a tiara, or some other adornment.

what to consider: If you go the veil route, try on a variety of lengths and shapes with your gown to see what complements it best. In general, longer veils are considered more formal and shorter ones have a slightly retro feel. Tiaras, silk flowers, vintage combs, or pearl and crystal hairpins can also add a special touch.

Jewelry

why choose it: To complement your neckline or simply to add sparkle to your Big Day.

what to consider: You don’t want jewelry that steals the show. The pieces you purchase or borrow should enhance your gown, not compete with it. So if you’re wearing a dress with an elaborately beaded neckline, a necklace of any kind could be distracting. Diamond studs, pearl earrings or a delicate diamond bracelet would work well instead. On the other hand, a wide-set portrait neckline begs to be completed with a pendant or a pair of chandelier danglers.

Shoes

why choose them: Unless your ceremony involves sand, you can’t exactly go barefoot.

what to consider: Heel height. Ballet flats or kitten heels are the safest call, but higher heels can also be comfortable if you choose a platform heel. Dyeing shoes the same color as your gown is the easiest way to guarantee a match but you can also try buying a metallic pair. Ivory dresses tend to go well with gold shades; truer white work better with silver tones.

The Wedding Checklist

12 MONTHS

BRIDE

Announce the engagement to family, friends and maybe, in the newspaper.
Set a wedding date & decide on the type of wedding.
Make a venue selection, and book the reception at Linmarr Davao.
Make an appointment with the ceremony official to discuss the service.
Find out about religious & legal requirements for your ceremony.
Get both families together to discuss the budget, and who will pay for what.
Decide on the number of guests and make sure you check with both families.
Start a wedding file to keep your notes and paperwork together.

8 MONTHS

BRIDE

Get going with your wedding dress (Keep in mind that a few fittings may be required).
Select your bridesmaids and appoint the speakers at the wedding.
With your Groom, select your ideal honeymoon destination and make reservations.
Select a photographer/videographer.

6 MONTHS

BRIDE

Design wedding stationary – invitations, RSVP cards, thank-you cards, etc.
Choose your wedding colour scheme. Also remember to tell your mother & your fiancé’s mother so they can find dresses in harmonizing colours.
Select a florist and discuss flowers that will match your colour scheme.
Select music for the ceremony and the reception.

3 MONTHS

BRIDE

Finalize the guest list and double check that all the names are spelled correctly and the addresses are complete.
Mail or arrange the delivery of the invitations.
Confirm the delivery date of your wedding dress.
Make your final selection on the attendants’ dresses and assist the mothers.
Order your wedding cake.
Start your health and fitness program at the Holiday Gym and Spa. Make an appointment with your family doctor.
Brief your ceremony official and check that the documentation required is in place.
Choose a guest book at Linmarr Davao.
Choose gifts for the attendants.
Begin writing thank-you notes for gifts received early.
Make or order wedding favours.
The Reception - Discuss the details of your reception with the Linmarr Davao co-ordinator – menus, drinks, etc.

GROOM

Talk with your Bride about the level of formality of the wedding and then order your attire. Discuss the attire of the best man and ushers.
Finalize honeymoon arrangements – passports, insurance, vaccinations, travellers’ cheques.
Shop for wedding rings.
Arrange transportation for the Bride and Groom, and the guests.
Assist out-of-town guests with accommodation.
Decide how you will organize your financial affairs with your Bride.

1 MONTH

BRIDE

Follow up on unanswered invitations.
Have the final wedding dress fitting to make sure you are going to look picture-perfect.
Buy bridal accessories – veil, shoes, jewellery, etc.
Make appointments with your make-up artist and hair stylist (remember the trials).
Make arrangements for an attendants’ luncheon/dinner & hand out their gifts.
Schedule a ceremony rehearsal. It should take place one or two days before the wedding.
If you’ve decided to exchange gifts with your fiancé, now is a good time to choose that special present.

GROOM

Arrange for the rehearsal dinner with your parents, if they are hosting it.
Pick up the Bride’s ring, and double check the engraving.
Pick up your best man & ushers’ gifts.
Ensure that all wedding attire is ready.
Select a gift for your Bride. Make it something personal that will be a lasting memory.

2 WEEKS

BRIDE

With your fiancé, take the time to go and fill out the necessary forms for your marriage license.
Phone the editors of your local newspapers to find out what information is required for you to place a wedding announcement.
Arrange to change your name and your address on official documents such as driver’s license, bank accounts, insurance and health policies, etc.
Draw up a wedding-day time sheet and circulate it to all the necessary people.

BEST MAN

It’s your responsibility to organize the Bachelor Party. Don’t let things get out of hand.

1 WEEK

BRIDE

Pack for your honeymoon.
Practice putting on your wedding dress and break in your shoes.
Have one of your attendants call all your suppliers to verify they will be on time, at the right location and with everything you’ve ordered.
Be good to yourself. This week especially, put your feet up for at least an hour each day. If you can, take a day off just before the wedding and pamper yourself with a facial, pedicure, manicure and massage. It’s the perfect way to prepare for a beautiful wedding.

GROOM

Brief your head usher on any special seating instructions.
Put the religious donation in a sealed envelope and give it to the Best Man who will hand it to the ceremony official just before or after the ceremony.
Get a hair cut.
Move personal things to your new home. Help her do the same.
Check that all speeches are prepared.
Make final payments.

BEST MAN

Discuss all details with the Bride and Groom well before the ceremony and brief the ushers’. Remember, you are also in charge of handing out service sheets, mass books, etc.

THE DAY

BRIDE

Have a massage to start the day off feeling great. Get dressed 2 hours before the ceremony. Relax and enjoy the day – remember to pause once in a while to take it all in – it’s the details what make it all so special.

MAID/MATRON OF HONOUR

Take an emergency kit with you – things a Bride may need such as a needle and thread, hairpins, nail polish, aspirin, water, etc.

BEST MAN

Check the Groom’s outfit. Put the marriage license safely in your pocket. Make sure the rings are in one of the Groom’s safe pockets. Call the ushers to make sure they arrive at the ceremony on time and that they know their duties Remember you’re in charge here.

THE CEREMONY

The wedding official takes his / her place at the front of the church.
The Groom and Best Man stands ready (The Best Man stands to the right of the Groom).
The organist begins the procession music.
You and your father start slowly walking down the aisle.
Following the ceremony, the Maid of Honour, escorted by the Best Man, goes with the Bride and Groom to participate in the signing of the marriage registry.

AFTER THE CEREMONY

The Best Man helps organize the wedding party for the photographs after the ceremony.
He also makes sure all the guests have transportation to the reception party. He escorts the Maid of Honour to the reception.
Now is when the Best Man takes over as the Master of Ceremonies. He is responsible for overall timing, replying to the Groom’s toast, the Best Man makes his speech, reading messages or cards from absent friends.

AFTER

Ask your mother to send your gown to be cleaned.
Send thank-you letters.
Make sure all the bills have been paid.
Have a wonderful honeymoon.

Prepare Your Wedding Day Emergency Kit

There are number of items that you should have on hand for the wedding day "just in case". You can find these items at convenience stores, grocery stores and drugstores. Assemble your preferred items into an ecofriendly bag. Prepare your kit in advance and hang on the back knob of your bedroom door. Move it to your front door the night before and grab it confidently as you leave for your wedding.

* Aspirin or Ibuprofen
* Antacid Tablets (chewable)
* Baby or Talcum Powder
* Bobby Pins
* Bottled Water (at least one)
* Breath mints or mouthwash
* Candy (bribe for youngsters to pose for pictures)
* Clear band aids (for cuts and shoe protection)
* Clear nail polish (in case of a run in stockings - optional)
* Crackers (for nausea and snacks)
* Deodorant
* Facial tissue or handkerchief
* Money (drinks, tips, convenience store stops, etc)
* Sanitary Napkins
* Writing Pen and/or Pencil
* Toothbrush and toothpaste
* Rubber Bands

Top 5 Wedding Color Themes

In themed weddings, colors are the first priority since it carries on from the bridal gown, invitations, clothes for the entourage down to napkins and tablecloths. On a website by Kate Smith, www.sensationalcolor.com she a answers the question “Is the color of love green or red?” An opinionated reader wrote that green seems to be more attractive on women. But Kate points out that although green is associated with nature, health and balance which might be confused with love, it still does not represent love on the passionate level between two people. The color red still claims this.

Bridal gowns are predominantly white nowadays since it is seen as a sign of purity and piety. But the truth of the matter is that even in biblical terms the color symbol for this is actually light blue, which was used more often in ancient times.

A writer named Kelsey McIntyre notes that the preference for white fashionably influenced by its choice for the bridal dress during Queen Victoria to her betrothal to her cousin Albert of Saxe-Coburg in 1840. It was a historic event and the esteemed designers of the day made constant use of it. Coco Chanel cemented the use of white during her reign of influence as she popularized the short white wedding dress. Along this line, an old poem was found saying, “Married in white, you will have chosen all right. Married in grey, you will go far away. Married in black, you will wish yourself back. Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead. Married in blue, you will always be true. Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl. Married in green, ashamed to be seen, Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow. Married in brown, you’ll live out of town. Married in pink, your spirits will sink.”

Today, white still stands as the top choice for wedding color themes; the next four is actually not determined in this article since trends change with the seasons. But the two rules of thumb in designing for weddings are relate and compliment the chosen main color and avoid using too many colors. One or two are enough and three may be over the top. The second rule is that although black is a very classic and elegant color; but should not be overused as the central color theme as it will set off a negative tone and possibly pass off the event as a funeral.

But just to run down the key color choices: Brown and Orange will make your guests feel comfortable, warm and very cozy and the latter, psychologists say, actually stimulates the appetite.

Green stands for nature, fertility, wealth and money and Blue is for faith, truth and tranquility. Pink is for innocence, femininity, gentleness and fidelity while purple is for royalty, luxury, creativity and inspiration.

For warmer months, Yellow is used as it joyful, happy and cheerful color, much like sunshine. The Japanese see it as the symbol of royalty and courage. Red can be assumed as the closest to white in popularity since it represents love, passion, power and sex and suits the colder seasons. The universal gifting of red roses are taken as show of deep love. In India it is also seen as the color of purity while the Chinese refer to it for good luck.

Quick research will show that the mood can be set by the colors, but the best determinant of the color choice would be to first determine the character of the bride. Since this is her big day, her word will be last. The only other common factor for choice would be the season.

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Top 10 Cheesiest Songs Played at Pinoy Weddings

Jean Natividad Published: 22nd of June, 2010


Why do Pinoy weddings tend to sound the same? Is it because most brides (and grooms, if they had a say on the matter) pick the same old wedding songs? Maybe it's not their choice entirely. We suspect they pick tunes people expect to hear. Because, really, how many tradition-crazy Pinoys would appreciate edgy tunes by Portishead or Paramore as wedding theme songs? SPOT.ph pays homage to the 10 cheesiest ditties we're bound to heard over and over again every year, and that, admit it, can be "Awwww"-inspiring even to the most jaded of hearts.

1. "We've Only Just Begun" by the Carpenters

Mushiest lyrics: And when the evening comes we smile / So much of life ahead / We'll find a place where there's room to grow

Versions: Over the years, notable male versions of this Carpenters original have been recorded by Paul Williams, Perry Como, Mark Lindsay, Andy Williams, and Johnny Mathis. Female versions are from Dionne Warwick, Barbra Streisand, and Claudine Longet, who murders the song. Karen Carpenter owns this song.

Trivia: The song (in Paul Williams' vocals) was first used for a bank commercial.

Cheese factor: The song has loads of references to beginnings and "roads ahead." But where the heck did this line come from: "We start out walking and learn to run." We get what it's trying to say, but we can't help it if we picture two adults acting like babies.

2. "The Way You Look Tonight" by Fred Astaire

Mushiest lyrics: And that laugh that wrinkles your nose / It touches my foolish heart

Versions: The much-loved wedding track is a 1936 Fred Astaire original. Legendary musicians like Frank Sinatra, Billie Holiday, Tony Bennett, Ella Fitzgerald, Olivia Newton-John, and Rod Stewart have their own versions. Younger artists like Michael Bublé, Joey McIntyre, Maroon 5, and Kris Allen also have their covers. And yes, even our very own Zsa Zsa Padilla has a commendable version. However, Sinatra's version is the most melodious of them all.

Trivia: The song is from a 1936 film titled Swing Time. John "Lucky" Garnett (Astaire) sung this song to Penelope "Penny" Carroll (Ginger Rogers). It is also included in soundtracks of several movies including the quirky wedding flicks My Best Friend's Wedding and Father of the Bride.

Cheese factor: This song is not cheesy per se but the fact that it's played at every single wedding, more so when it's a remake, has made it so. Anyway, has it ever occurred to people that this could be an X-rated song if it's not played at the right time? Playing this song during a daytime wedding only makes everyone think of the wedding night.

3. "The Gift" by Jim Brickman

No wonder he's so good at it, he's been playing the piano since the age of five.

Mushiest Lyrics: All I want is to hold you forever / All I need is you more every day

Versions: This 1997 Jim Brickman composition, in collaboration with Collin Raye and Susan Ashton, was revived by Erik Santos in his 2009 album titled The Jim Brickman Songbook. Thumbs up for Santos' version and thanks a lot for sticking to the simplicity of the tune. The soothing piano and his vocals create a sweet serenade.

Trivia: Aside from making music, Brickman also hosts his own radio show in the US called Your Weekend with Jim Brickman.

Cheese factor: Love is a gift that can't be boxed and wrapped in shiny, glittery paper and yet, it's one hell of a treat. So lovebirds, cherish it.

4. "I Finally Found Someone" by Barbra Streisand and Bryan Adams

Mushiest Lyrics: My favorite line was / "Can I call you sometime?" / It's all you had to say / To take my breath away

Versions: This 1996 Barbra Streisand and Bryan Adams duet was performed by Celine Dion at the Academy Awards. A country version was recorded by Lorrie Morgan and Sammy Kershaw in 2001. The Celine Dion performance was so superb that it sparked the "Tell Him" duet of Streisand and Dion.

Trivia: The song is soundtrack to the film The Mirror Has Two Faces that Streisand produced, directed, and starred in.

Cheese factor: There's a hint of desperation in the song–and it's all because of the word, "finally." It indicates that one has been looking for Mister or Miss Right for ages. Love's great, but, hey, there's more to life than "coupling."

5. "All My Life" by America

Mushiest lyrics: All my life, I will carry you through / All my life, between each hour of the passing days / I will stay with you

Versions: This well-loved classic is an American original, just one of their many hits like Ventura Highway and Daisy Jane. Asia's Songbird Regine Velasquez beautifully sang a cover of this hit during her One Enchanting Songbird Benefit Concert.

Trivia: All three original members (Gerry Beckley, Dewey Bunnel, and Dan Peek) share a common denominator, being half-British and half-American. Their fathers were American military personnel who met their loves while stationed in London.

Cheese Factor: Giving in to love is the sweetest surrender, agree?

6. "Sana'y Wala Nang Wakas" by Sharon Cuneta

Mushiest lyrics: Kahit na ilang tinik ay kaya kong tapakan / Kung 'yan ang paraan upang landas mo'y masundan

Versions: Regine Velasquez, Jed Madela, and Rachelle Ann go sang covers of this Sharon Cuneta original. This song sounds best when sung by a choir. Otherwise, Megastar owns this one.

Trivia: In total accordance with Philippine teleserye tradition, the song was used as title for a soap starring Jericho Rosales and Kristine Hermosa.

Cheese factor: It's the perfect song for hopeless romantics...as well as masochists.

7. "Ikaw" by Sharon Cuneta and Ariel Rivera

Mushiest lyrics: Kulang ang magpakailan pa man / Upang bawat sandali ay / Upang muli't muli ay / Ang mahalin ay ikaw

Versions: Top-rated Filipino performers Martin Nievera, Lea Salonga, and Regine Velasquez have their own versions of the song. All three gave justice to the piece but Salonga is a standout.

Trivia: Before becoming a singer and eventually an actor, Ariel Rivera worked as an architect in Dubai.

Cheese factor: Your special someone may seem heaven-sent but like us, he/she is human and has flaws. Just don't go running away when you realize that, okay? True love embraces the good as well as the bad.

8. "Ngayon at Kailanman" by Basil Valdez

Mushiest lyrics: Sa bawat araw ang pag-ibig ko sa ‘yo liyag / Lalong tumatamis, tumitingkad / Bawat kahapon ay daig nitong bawat ngayon / Na daig ng bawat bukas

Versions: Sharon Cuneta recorded her version of the hit song in 1992 for a film of the same title where she teamed up with Richard Gomez. Marinel Santos also has her rendition from the George Canseco Songbook album released in 2008.

Trivia: Basil Valdez wasn't always a solo artist. He was a member of Circus Band in 1972 which disbanded a few years after.

Cheese factor: The ride along the wedded road need not be as calm as the melody of this song. There are lots of ways to spice up the relationship from a new perfume to some animal-print wallpaper.

9. "Pangako" by Ogie Alcasid

Mushiest lyrics: Pangako, hindi ka na mag-iisa / Pangakong magmula ngayo'y / Tayong dal'wa ang magkasama

Versions: Regine Velasquez recorded her rendition as theme song for her 2001 flick titled Pangako Ikaw Lang with Aga Muhlach. Since the release of her cover, the song has gained more popularity and has been used as a staple wedding track. There's no denying the powerful voice of the Asia's Songbird.

Trivia: On his first major attempt to enter the music scene in 1989, Ogie Alcasid's self-titled debut album reached gold record status. Talk about raw talent.

Cheese factor: They say promises are meant to be broken, we say those who say that are bitter. Some promises are actually fulfilled all in the name of love.

10. "Forevermore" by Side A

Mushiest lyrics: I just can't believe that you are mine now / You were just a dream that I once knew / I never thought I would be right for you

Versions: Brenan Espartinez (you might remember him as "Agatom" from Sineskwela) recorded a remake of this 1994 Side A original under his self-titled album in 2009. His version is just dreamy. From an acoustic track, the song was transformed into a soul-R&B track that can make every listener fall even more in love with the song.

Trivia: The song reached platinum record status eight times over and bagged the Song of the Year Award in the 1995 Awit Awards.

Cheese Factor: No star is too far to reach especially when love's got your back. Just keep the faith.

Wedding Planning Tips for Brides

04.08.2010 Author: Mark Walters Posted in Weddings

There are some careful considerations that need to be thought over before planning a big event, such as a wedding. Although planning a wedding can be exhilarating and lots of fun, it is never easy and can turn into a very stressful time. Listed below are some of the things you will need to consider very carefully.

Place And Time – The first things that any wedding planner needs to determine is the location of the wedding and the time it will take place. Wedding venues can range from the city to the country and from outdoors to indoors. For outdoor weddings, choices can range from a breezy beachside ceremony to a cozy garden event. If you decide to have the wedding indoors, the next step is to decide whether to have a conventional church wedding or one in a hotel venue. The choice is ultimately yours; however, consider the ability for guests to easily arrive at the location. Once the place is decided, the time of the ceremony should be chosen. Do you want a wedding in the evening, afternoon, or morning? Again, consider the ability for most of your guests to attend at the time you chose. If these factors are not considered, the attending guests could be few and far between.

Decor And Design – Decorations are an integral part of any wedding, regardless of the location chosen. However, make sure the decor coordinates with the scenery. Flowers are typically the first decorating concern. Make sure the florist uses fresh flowers that will remain vibrant throughout the occasion. A few of the most popular flower selections are roses, tulips, daisies, and calla lilies. If you are having a church wedding, the options are limited for decoration, but consider trimming the pews or chairs with bows, ribbons, and tulle. If the venue is relatively minimal, consider integrating a wedding arch. It has great symbolic meaning for the union of two people and always makes a great backdrop for photographs after the ceremony.

Guests And Invitations – You will want to share your joy on your special day with all your family and friends, and you will want all your guests to have a lovely time. If you plan on feeding your guests, be sure that the menu is well-planned. Double count your guest list to ensure that you have provided enough food for everyone who is attending. If you like, you can ask your guests while the menu is still in the planning stage if they have any special dietary restrictions that would keep them from enjoying themselves. Plan your invitations so that they are in keeping with your decorations of the theme of your wedding.

These are a few of the basic elements of a good wedding. Remember, do not rush and be sure to make your decisions carefully. This is your special day, so enjoy all of the facets, including the planning, and everything else will fall into place.

Top 10 Best Churches for Weddings

From WikiPilipinas: The Hip 'n Free Philippine Encyclopedia

Churches are structures where religious bodies conduct ceremonies such as the sacrament of matrimony, the union of souls blessed by God. Philippine Churches have been witness to many marriages. With the many churches in the Philippines, it is not difficult to find an excellent wedding venue for couples dreaming of the wedding of a lifetime.
As this article will show you, dream weddings can come to life. We have picked the country's best churches for weddings, where dreams are bound to come true, and here are your Top 10!

1.Caleruega Church

Known as the Transfiguration Chapel and located at Batulao, Nasugbu, Batangas, this church stands proud and majestic at the highest point of Caleruega. Here, nature is at its glory, creating a well-orchestrated ambiance perfect for weddings and other intimate occasions.
The church is actually small and can seat just over a couple hundred but the area surrounding it is quite large with greeny hills in all directions. They also have several medium to large reception halls that couples can rent to serve as venue for the after-ceremonial party.
The church is so in-demand that would-be couples need to book a date a year ahead of the wedding date especially during peak seasons like June and December.

2. San Sebastian Church

The Church of San Sebastian is the only all-steel church in the world located in the heart of Quiapo, Manila. Based on UNESCO description, the church is a reflection of the late 19th century innovations in architecture, art and construction. It is declared a National Historical Landmark per Presidential Decree No. 260. In addition, the church was listed among the 1998 World’s Most Endangered Sites by the World Monuments Watch.
This church boast of neo-Gothic architecture - lancet arches, vaulted ceilings, tracery, and jewel-like stained glass windows. A fusion of ancient art and innovative construction, San Sebastian is undeniably a much-favored venue for weddings.

3. Manila Cathedral

Among the centuries-old churches that stand steadfast in Intramuros, Manila. This church's facade is in breathtaking Romanesque-Byzantine architecture featuring baroque elements, a perfect blend of contrasting styles. It features adobe walls, stone carvings, mosaic art, stained-glass windows and a very impressive main altar (a tribute to Our Lady of the Immaculate Conception) which are truly fit for vows made in heaven.

4. San Agustin Church

A wedding destination reminiscent of the country's glorious past, and home to marriages of promising future. The church serves as a major tourist attraction in the city and is frequently visited both by national and international tourists. San Agustin is located in the historic town of Intramuros, and stands out with its intricate design from floor to ceiling, especially its molave-carved doors. The church facade is built along neoclassic lines, complete with Ionic and Corinthian columns. It was designated one of the "World Heritage Sites" in the Philippines.

5. Santuario de San Jose Parish

Established as a Parish in 1965, Santuario de San Jose Parish has very beautiful interior and is perfect for a grandiose venue for weddings located in East Greenhills, Mandaluyong City. It is frequented mainly by the residents of Wack-Wack and Whiteplains, its parishioners.
Located within an upscale subdivision, privacy and security are ensured during the ceremony. The interiors reflect a subdued atmosphere with a magnificent altar that lends a certain grandeur.

6. Christ the King Church

Huge venue for equally big weddings located in Greenmeadows, Quezon City, perfect for beautiful exterior shots. The structure is round, enclosed by clear glass, allowing plenty of light to seep through, including a magnificent altar which would look good in pictures.

7. San Beda Chapel

Also known as the Abbey of Our Lady of Monserrat, located in Mendiola, Manila, inside the equally famous San Beda College. Richly neo-Gothic in style, the church is resplendent with its colorful interior with vault ceilings and half-dome. Murals and paintings abound from wall to ceiling, the most admired feature of the church.

8. Paco Church

Paco Church (St. Pancratius Chapel) is usually where solemn and intimate weddings take place. The perfectly designed facade in Romanesque architecture is beautifully set off by the serene ambiance of the historical Paco Park and cemetery.

9. Malate Church

One of the oldest churches in Manila with a fusion of Muslim and Baroque architecture. The church served as stone fortress of the British against the Spaniards in Intramuros. The church with its conservative-looking solid, compact, and dark stone structure is the perfect setting for couples wanting solemn vows.

10. Binondo Church

A 16th-century church located at Binondo, Manila where the Philippine Saint Lorenzo Ruiz started his ministry. From its original stone-walled, renaissance- inspired facade and interior, this church has been transformed after multiple renovations and is now known for its semblance to St. Peter's Dome interior and Madonna encased in glass.

15 Wedding Details You Don't Need to Worry About

There seem to be a million details to planning your wedding. Here, we list items you can safely and cleverly save on without anyone noticing a thing.

by Denise Schipani

1. The Wedding Guest List

The guest list’s size is the biggest determinant of your total wedding cost, so keeping expenses trim is of the utmost importance. But if you’re worried that you’ll offend people by not inviting them to your wedding, stop now. Of course you wouldn’t leave out your nearest and dearest, and anyone else you’re considering would likely be flattered to be invited but not bothered if they’re not (think: the group of college friends who live on the other side of the country whom you’ve not seen in five years). Your best bet to tighten your list is to make some wedding invitation list rules (for you, your fiancé and both families) and stick to them. That is, first cousins, but not second. Spouses and live-in or serious partners, but not random dates. Your boss, but not your whole office. One caveat: don’t split up groups, says Syd Sexton, owner of Syd Sexton Event Productions, in Denver. “If you can invite your office gang, great. But if you can’t, don’t just invite one of them.”

2. The Wedding Flowers

The first time you gazed upon your wedding reception site, you saw veritable fields of flowers, right? It’s no surprise, though, that piles and piles of blooms can ratchet up your costs quickly. Sexton notes that you don’t need to fill every corner of your venue with flowers for a lovely look. Work with your wedding florist to use the freshest, most in-season blooms to their strategic advantage, then fill in the rest of the decor with budget-friendly candles or greenery. If you just adore flowers, check out botanical gardens in your area—you’ll have a bounteous backdrop of blooms at your disposal (for not a penny more).

3. The Wedding Reception Cocktail Hour

One cocktail-hour trend these days is to overload (read: over-impress) guests with everything from sushi bars to towering displays of cheese, to passed hors d’oeuvres to pasta and carving stations. But there’s no reason to make this a blowout, “Keep it short and sweet—this ensures that you’ll need less food—and have your hors d’oeuvres hand-passed instead of having stations. This limits the amount of food you’ll need.” Stick with just enough food to keep guests from getting too tipsy too early in the evening. A pretty display of cheese, fruit and crackers will do just fine.

4. The Wedding Reception Dessert Table

“Unless you’re having a dessert reception, you don’t need to go overboard on sweets. Wedding cake is so spectacular that offering a dessert buffet, a crêpes suzette station and mini ice cream cones is just excessive,” says Levine. “After all, you don’t want to weigh guests down with so many sweets during your wedding reception that they don’t have the energy to get out on the dance floor!”

5. The Drinks

First of all, says Weiss, feel free to skip the champagne toast. It’s no longer considered a must-do at weddings. Simply toast with whatever wine you already have on the table. As for your bar options, remember this is your party, so it’s entirely up to you, not your hard-partying college friends or the snooty aunts who prefer top-shelf martinis. Work with your reception site or caterer to create a bar you can afford, whether that means offering only beer, wine, water and soft drinks; a signature drink at the cocktail hour and red and white wines with dinner; or less-expensive liquors for mixed drinks rather than pricey brand names. Also, keep mixed drinks as simple as possible: The more varieties of liquor that are involved in assembling the drink, the more you will pay. “If you’re hiring an off-premise caterer and can buy your own alcohol, you can save even more by shopping around and being able to return unopened bottles,” notes Walls. Instruct the wait staff not to automatically top off guests’ wineglasses and, finally, arrange to have your bar closed an hour before the end of the party. You’ll be doing the drivers a favor.

6. The Five-Course Wedding Reception Meal

We know—you’re worried about wedding guests going home either hungry or unhappy with your food choices. Those worries have caused many brides and grooms to go down the path of offering too much—up to seven courses—and paying too much for it. If you’re looking to cut costs, “eliminate one course in the meal, and just serve an appetizer and an entrée,” says Walls. You can also stick to offering one or two choices for the entrée. Or instead of offering chicken, steak or salmon entrées, assemble a plate that combines, say, a few grilled shrimp and medallions of beef, plus a creative array of vegetables. (You may save 40 percent or more on your wedding reception, because your chef will know exactly what to buy for your head count.) Once you find a caterer that you really trust, you can work with him to find the most economical options. Rest assured quality always trumps quantity, and that no one will end up stopping at McDonald’s on the way home.

7. The Wedding Invitations

Engraved or letterpress wedding invitations are the ultimate, yes. And heavy cardstock, of course. But all of this is very costly. Choosing an unusual color, paper or design may also raise your wedding invitation costs more than you’re prepared for. If you’re a DIY-er (or if you know someone who is), design and make your own wedding invitations by hand or on a high-quality computer printer. Some calligraphic fonts are so good that it’s really hard to tell they’re not done by hand.

8. The Wedding Cake

A five-tier wedding cake tower covered with intricate sugarpaste flowers, ribbons, butterflies and bows? Gorgeous, yes. Necessary, no. The more elaborate the design, the more your wedding cake will cost. Ask your baker for options to keep the cost down, such as serving a smaller, tiered display cake and supplementing with a sheet cake that is brought out from the kitchen after the official cake cutting; doing less-pricey cupcakes in your wedding colors (always a big guest favorite!); or choosing less exotic fillings and less elaborate sugarpaste designs. You also may want to consider decorating the confection with fresh flowers instead of sugarpaste, as they cost less but give a luxe look. Another option: Instead of a specialty baker, hire a local one to make your cake—more affordable and guests will be just as happy!

9. The Transportation

Will anyone care if you don’t show up to your wedding or reception in a white limousine? No. White limos cost more than black or silver ones, so you may decide to cross that off your list. If you do hire a limousine, don’t have the car that took you to the ceremony wait for you all day—book another to come for you later (you’ll save on hourly rates). Do ask your limo company about wedding packages—they might have just the right one for you.

10. Wedding Favors

The experts don’t mince words: “Unless the favor is food—like some nice chocolates the guests can eat right then—it’s a wedding expense you can forgo,” says Walls. Weiss agrees. “Brides feel they have to give favors, but this should be seen as an extra. I am a huge fan of making donations to charities instead. You can do this and write an adorable note to each guest (and leave it at the place settings), in which you let them know you’ve donated in their honor.”

11. The Wedding Reception Venue

You’ve found out the price per person at your chosen reception venue, and it’s just plain too high. Don’t worry (and don’t overspend)—negotiate. But some brides are shy or they think this is tacky. “Uh-uh,” says Sexton. “In a tough economic climate, vendors expect it. Be honest about your budget, and ask, ‘What can you do for me with this amount?’ Or ask, ‘I see this is your lowest package price. Can you do a little better?’ ” If you are willing to play with days (a Friday or Sunday, say), times of day or seasons, you can work out a better deal. Still unconvinced that you should speak up? “The worst they can do is say no,” reasons Walls. And even if negotiating doesn’t get you a drastic cost reduction, you may get some extras thrown in (like trays of cookies for the tables, or top-shelf liquor for the price of generic brands). Remember: Wedding reception vendors want your business as much as you want a nice wedding.

12. The Wedding Rehearsal Dinner

You’ve already planned a major event—your wedding reception. You need not make the rehearsal dinner a mini wedding by booking an expensive restaurant or another catering place. “If you can, have it in the home of someone willing to host,” says Sexton. (Hint: perhaps someone wants to make this their gift to you!). “Do something casual, like a backyard barbecue. Or ask your wedding caterer if he or she is willing to cater it in a private home for a lower fee, as part of your wedding package.”

13. The Linens

On an unlimited budget, specialty linens add sparkle and a special touch. But the standard white or off-white table coverings included at most reception sites have kept their classic good looks! Perk up the tables with napkins tied with ribbons or rent stylish napkin rings.

14. Wedding Shoes

Focus your energy, your worries and your money on your dress—not your wedding shoes, advises Levine. “Why spend hundreds of dollars on footwear you’ll wear for a single day? Seriously—if you have a gorgeous gown, an amazing hairstyle and a flawless face, no one is going to be examining what’s going on below your ankles.” Find inexpensive (but comfortable) wedding shoes that complement your bridal gown, and leave it at that.

15. The Impression

Are you worried about wowing your guests? Don’t. Too many couples think it’s their obligation to dazzle their friends at their wedding with every extra on the books. “But all guests really want is to feel taken care of and special,” says Walls, “which you can do in little ways.” For example, be sure your wedding has good “flow,” without an uncomfortable time gap between ceremony and reception. Be sure your traveling guests have little amenities in their rooms, and that older guests don’t have far to walk. Weiss likes to leave milk and homemade cookies for wedding guests at the end of the night. “It makes everyone feel loved,” she says. “And isn’t that the way you want them to feel, when all is said and done?”

Bridal Shower Basics

Games! Gifts! Gabbing! Here's a guide to this classic party for the bride. Learn the party-planning basics, and get ideas for themes.


At your bridal shower, you get to be the guest of honor as your closest female friends and relatives gather to girl-talk, eat…and lavish you with a truckload of amazing gifts. Even though this is one party you won't have to plan, it helps to know what to expect.

1. Hosts with the Most

The bridal shower is usually given by your bridal party or a close family friend. The total cost is often split among the maid of honor and bridesmaids, but mothers of the bride and groom often contribute financially, too, or offer to pay for something specific, like wine, the cake or party favors.

2. Perfect Timing

Showers typically take place on a Saturday or Sunday anywhere from two months to three weeks before the wedding. The exact time of day will be up to your hosts, but they'll likely plan a brunch, a luncheon or an afternoon tea that lasts three to four hours.

3. Who's Invited?

Important: Only people who will be invited to the wedding should be included in the shower; a group of 20 to 40 guests is standard. Invitations should be mailed out six weeks before the shower date or earlier, and must include the following: the names of the hostesses; the name of the bride (some shower hosts also include a "fiancé of…" line, as a courtesy to his family); the date, time and location of the party; whether it's a surprise; special themes or instructions (see sidebar, right); a contact name and phone number for RSVPs; and gift registry information.

4. Places to Party

Traditional showers usually take place at the home of a relative or close family friend, or in a private room at a restaurant. Others revolve around an activity—guests might meet at a pottery shop to make and paint clay objects, a design studio for a flower-arranging class or a jewelry store where they can create their own necklaces and bracelets. Nail salons and day spas are popular spots, too.

5. Girls Only?

Guess what? Showers aren't just for the bride any longer. Many couples today are feted with a coed "Jack & Jill" shower. It might be a cocktail party, a barbecue or drinks at a favorite nightclub. Not sure you want to forgo the all-female gathering? You don't need to: Having one of each is perfectly okay, but try not to duplicate invitees so that no one feels she must buy you more than one gift.

6. Let's Celebrate!

You'll spend the first part of the shower eating, drinking and mingling with your guests. The main event—opening gifts—usually takes place during coffee and dessert. You'll take a seat in front of the crowd and your bridesmaids (or other trustworthy volunteers) will hand you gifts to open. One bridesmaid will sit alongside you and jot down each gift and its giver—a helpful list to have when you write your thank-you notes. Playing games is optional.

SUPREME THEMES

Around the Clock. Guests are assigned a time of day, and then give a gift that pertains to that hour—mugs or a coffeemaker for 8 a.m.; cooking utensils for 6 p.m.; brandy snifters or a sexy negligee for 11 p.m.

Room of the House. Instead of times of day, guests are assigned “bathroom,” “dining room,” “bedroom” and so on. Expect to receive things like bathrobes, wine glasses and sheets.

Month of the Year. The guest who got “December” might give you a cozy blanket; “June” could give you an ice-cream maker; and “February” could give you some romantic DVDs.

Stock the Kitchen. This is great if your registry is chock-full of kitchen and cooking items. Guests are often asked to include a favorite recipe with their kitchen-related gift.

Linen Shower. Gifts that fall into the “linen” category: bedding, bath towels, napkins, place mats, tablecloths and so on. Alternatively, shower hosts can substitute linen for lingerie, which will net you an array of gorgeous top-drawer goodies.